Topic: Her first Date Night
Member # 36622
| Posted: 6:18 AM, June 21st (Friday), 2013|
One of my conditions of R was monthly date nights. We would alternate months picking and planning our dates. It was to get to know each other again and share an interest we have with each other.
For 19 months I was the only one to plan a date. It was a subject of frustration. I would think "you must not want to spend time with me", even though we would always have a great time when I would plan them. I would think "I am just not that important to you". It was none if those things. It was just plain old fear of failure.
Well Broevil finally planned one. Last night we went to a Sideshow and Burlesque show. It was awesome. We had so much fun and got so freaked out.
I hope it has given her the confidence to plan more.
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Posts: 2551 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 37154
| Posted: 7:33 AM, June 21st (Friday), 2013|
I'm happy for both of you!
Posts: 1716 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 31240
| Posted: 5:57 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013|
Oh, boy, I'd like to take my W to a burlesque show - I don't think I've close to a burlesque theater recently, though.
Chicho, I urge you to hold broevil's feet to the fire going forward - not because it will hurt, but because it won't hurt. All she has to do is to arrange a simple date - nothing spectacular. She deserves the sense of accomplishment she'll get from arranging something you both enjoy, and you deserve a rest.
It turns out my W is better at it than I am, so we've had a lot more fun since she started arranging the entertainment.
[This message edited by sisoon at 5:57 PM, June 21st (Friday)]
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Posts: 9910 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 31528
| Posted: 6:29 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013|
Terrific update!! I'm so happy for you both.
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Member # 31349
| Posted: 7:24 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013|
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Posts: 16774 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 35812
| Posted: 7:52 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013|
That's wonderful! That's a date night that I would love to have!
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Posts: 4671 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 38140
| Posted: 10:07 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013|
This is great! I am guilty of not doing enough of this as well. Rocky is so great at planning dates for us, and it is often intimidating because I fear my plans don't measure up.
For about two weeks, I stressed myself out about how to make her birthday special. I put together what was going to be the perfect family outing, and it truly felt great. Unfortunately the skies opened up and it poured on my plans. We ended up going to the local pizza place and had a wonderful time, and I realized that these dates don't have to be perfect. I'm sure she will recognize that as well.
Planning dates can awaken the creative beast that lies within. And even if it ends with just getting pizza, the beast is awake and hungry for more creative planning.
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Member # 16024
| Posted: 5:14 AM, June 28th (Friday), 2013|
I'm glad you had fun!
I love watching the two of you in your journey .
Take up your space (and do it well).
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