But I know WH very well. I know his limitations and how much he shrinks from "demands" being placed on him by literally anyone. I know his level of immaturity and his extreme simplicity. I know he seriously can't continue to be Mr. Charming forever, pretend to be deeper than he really is, pretend to like things he really hates--and her punishment will be to have WH all to her sad little self.
Of course if evidence of your happy life is posted publicly on Facebook or Pinterest or such and the AP happens to see it while stalking you, then that's an extra bonus.
Seriously though, don't go after the AP. Either they care about your life or they don't.
If they don't care about you and your WS, then any of your attempts at revenge will just serve to amuse them.
If they are still pining after your WS and perhaps stalking you online, then you living a happy life really will be the most hurtful thing they could see. And it's best for them to find it on their own, not have it sent to them by you.
But the most important reason to live a happy life is because you deserve it after all you have been through.
He's the real prick here. He's the one that I can't wait for the karma bus to nail his ass, and roll over him a second time for good measure. The bastard can rot in hell for all eternity for all I care.
Actually, he will never be truly happy. He's a broken man, will always be running after that elusive love, that elusive happiness. Will work himself to death, surround himself with things and on the day he dies, his step children and former wives will not shed a tear but spit on his grave.
My favourite one had to do with marrying OW's father. She is 20 yrs younger than my partner and her dad (divorced from her mom) can only be 10? yrs older than me?
So Christmas will be easier? No? OW is now my step daughter? My ex is now my son in law and I'm his Mother in law! My own daughter is now step grand daughter? She will, of course, be spoiled accordingly.
Point is, it's a digression from what we we have to walk through. No going around it. But sometimes we need a diversion to give the hurt a rest.