That is what I thought of. I didn't report her so that her children would be protected. When she was "living in the moment" she ripped my whole damn life apart. That's my interpretation of what being a "good" person, let alone a Christian, means to me. But I don't mean to turn this into a religious thing either.
I totally understand this. I did the same thing at first. She had two small children and I didn't want them hurt even though she tried to destroy my marriage and my family (we have 3 children)
I commend you for your faith. YOU are demonstrating the true meaning of Christianity by taking the higher road and placing others before yourself. Inspiration. Thank you for being the kind generous person you are.
I do want to encourage you to figure out if communicating with her will help you heal.
Not reporting her to the Army but you just reaching out to her for yourself.
I did with the OW and it was a mixed bag of results. I just needed to let her know how I felt and truly wanted to understand how she could be so cavalier with and my family. I did get an apology but it still didn't answer the question on HOW and WHY this happened.
I said my peace and still had a long road to recovery but at least I didn't regret not saying my peace.
Either way, I wish you the best of luck and thank for the reminder of what honesty and goodness look like. My angry hat must have been on during my first response.
(((hugs and prayers)))