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User Topic: OW stalks my facebook page.
forgivenesswins
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTF? ...thoughts?


BW- Me, 39
WH- Him, 38
Together 13 yrs.
D-Day - June 2012
DSD14, DS11, OC(D)2, DD1

Posts: 24 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: TX
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's a pathetic POS who wants your life, she's not confident enough in herself not to dream of settling for sloppy seconds, crumbs.....

If it bothers you (and it would me), you could block her.

((((forgivenesswins))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2509 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She stalks mine too.... She can't see anything though and she's blocked on WH's. I agree with Deadmumwalking. Don't let it get to you. Live your life. (((Hugs)))


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 14 and 11
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/12/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 420 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How do you know that she is stalking your page?


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3277 | Registered: Apr 2009
1Faith
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Block her. And make your page private in the settings. She is a desperate wench.

Or post loving and glowing things about your husband and your marriage.

In the end who cares. She isn't worth caring over.


If you're going through hell, keep going. - Winston Churchill

Posts: 842 | Registered: Apr 2013
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes how do you know? Not that I peak at the ow's page or anything...


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 346 | Registered: May 2013
notquiteoverit
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am also curious as to how you know this.


Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 547 | Registered: Jul 2011
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another person wanting to know how you know someone is stalking your FB page. How does one know?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 8990 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I too was under the impression that you can't tell who looked at your page. I've never been able to find out who has looked at my facebook page anyway. Read up once on that and it apparently can't be done?


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know because of FB''s suggested friends. And if I go to search and type in the first letter of her name, she pops up before my actual friends do.... Something to do with FB''s algorithms and tracking info. If she hasn''t been trying to view my wall for a few days, she falls down the list.

[This message edited by Chefj9 at 7:01 PM, June 21st, 2013 (Friday)]


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 14 and 11
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/12/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 420 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Creepy whore.

I'm in the BLOCK HER camp. Don't give her a window into your life---or any additional entre into your thoughts. (I know it's hard to banish her, but every little thing you can do to help rid yourself of her influence is important, IMO.)


BS-me, 52
WH(Mr. Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS17
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 7968 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Tired05
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm pretty sure the OW stalked my page before I even knew there was an OW. I'm also pretty confident she did it until right after my daughter was born (I realized she blocked me about a month after DD's Bday). I purposely left it public and posted a shit ton of pictures of me, my husband, our child and him holding our child. Also, those four weeks my husband (military) came home for leave (during daughter's birth) I posted and tagged pics of me and him. One of him touching my belly. Everytime I look at it, I can see what others who don't know must see: A married couple madly in love who can't wait for the birth of their first child who is due any day now. Of course, little do those bystanders know that I was sure he was telling me and OW what we both wanted to hear again.

Of course, this was when we were 'together again' and he was telling me he wasn't sure he made the right decision by coming back to me, so I KNEW that he was telling her the same thing and that he was thinking about leaving. So I took the ONLY kind of revenge I had, by posting those pictures on mine and his walls. I later read messages from her on his phone that she was upset to see us so close in those pics.

[This message edited by Tired05 at 7:46 PM, June 21st (Friday)]


Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interesting...


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 346 | Registered: May 2013
Area2
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Tired. Load up your page with pictures of you and your loving, devoted spouse and let her stew in her own hate. Target your posts for maximum effect on OW. Show her she has no impact on your life any more.


Me: BW 50's
Him: WH 60ish
Married all my adult life
LTA, in limbo re: R

Posts: 71 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Eastern seaboard
sri624
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh gosh...now i am paranoid...i look at ow FB sometimes.....


BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 1 baby
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
Attempting R in bitchboots

Posts: 907 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, block her

I have blocked OW, her son, her daughter and WH's brother, sister in law, and cousin (all 3 have OW as a friend on FB)

I am sure she looked at my FB before I knew about her, but I dont care, I check out her FB once in a while (through a "fake" account I set up years ago to play games - cityville and farmville, sending stuff to achieve goals)

OW still has pic of WH and her son as her cover photo, despite being told by me twice, told off BIG TIME by DD, through FB and on the phone and WH even told her to remove it

Still it remains, stupid pathetic OW, so proud to show off a pic of a man who has been lying and cheating for the entire time


Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand what you are saying. Say her name is "Rachel Green". As soon as you type "RA" into the search she pops up. That is because YOU look at her. You can't know who is looking at your page.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3277 | Registered: Apr 2009
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For me, the A was in the days of MYSPACE. Back then, there were codes that you could imbed in your profile to track the IP address of who was looking at your profile. While I didn't know OW's IP address, I did know that 7 days after I imbedded the tracker (called mixmap in those days), Ow went out of town, and all views from the IP address I suspected to be hers ceased until she was home.

In those 7 days, how many times did OW look at my profile? almost 50. In 7 days. And my profile was private (the code for the tracker was imbedded in the "headline"). 7 times a day OW looked at a white screen with my name and picture.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 1957 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As soon as you type "RA" into the search she pops up. That is because YOU look at her. You can't know who is looking at your page.

Correct, you cannot tell who is looking at your FB page. It is one of the few privacy "regs" (their own)they have kept to.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3263 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That means she's desperately trying to find any shred of trouble. She's intrigued by you and curious. I don't know your story but if you are in R, I would post pix of you and ws having a lovely time. If u have kids, then pix of daddy lovin on his kids.

I knew ow was checking my fbk out and I.posted " thanks babe for a wonderful night, can't wait for you to get home ". I left it for 24 hrs then blocked the bitch


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Status..%&$#@?$

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