Topic: where do I post this? I sad about good news
Member # 3903
| Posted: 9:55 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013|
Offer on my house. Happy that I can move on. I know this is my new beginning and the right and only road I should be traveling on...But I brought my babies home here. I lived here for almost half of my life.
I am relieved, devastated, sad and crying. This has not happened in a long time. Shocked by my reaction. Just when you think you have recovered some errant emotion takes a brick and hits you upside your head.
After all this time I finally know that none of this was about me or some deficiency I brought to the marriage. He was the one with the problem.
Posts: 1408 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 34352
| Posted: 10:08 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013|
Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........
Posts: 259 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Puget Sound
Member # 14866
| Posted: 11:08 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013|
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum
Posts: 49315 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 19595
| Posted: 1:11 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
I felt similar about the marital house I left 10 mo ago.
Ft and I met there, married in the backyard,raised his son and my daughter there, and brought two of our grandsons there after their births. So much history in 30 yrs. It was fitting we divorced while we still lived there.
I will say I couldn't have moved forward if I remained there.
Hugs the memories will alway be special and now you will create new ones in your new home.
Big Hugs !!!!!
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.
Posts: 20264 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Member # 31468
| Posted: 1:43 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
It's something that hit me too - especially the last time I left the house after moving out.
It was our marital home for 9 years - which is not as long as you had but it still hit me.
I agree with gma - it's hard but it's an important step in moving forward. But it is yet another loss to mourn as you do so. (( Hugs))
Together 9 yrs
Status: Divorced 4/27/11
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 4096 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 33735
| Posted: 9:05 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
I know I will be experiencing the same thing when I leave this house at the end of next year.
This house was the first one during our entire marriage that we were in longer than 4 years (due to job promotions and relocations). I finally have the kitchen of my dreams...
But you know what, even though I know I will grieve, I am actually looking forward to those after feelings of peace and letting go.
You will soon be feeling this too. Congratulations on the offer and cheers to your moving forward!
M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."
Posts: 952 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 20150
| Posted: 10:49 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
Been there, done that, it's very tough. Big hugs, you'll get through this and move on.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:49 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth
Posts: 16481 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
|Helen of Troy|
Member # 26419
| Posted: 11:06 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
It's ok to be sad about this. It's ok to grieve, even for a house.
Posts: 4567 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 15584
| Posted: 2:04 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
I wasn't in my marital home as long as you, but I felt the same way when we foreclosed. There were so many dreams and plans that never happened.
happiness is a direction, not a place.
Posts: 3863 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 36599
| Posted: 2:34 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
FWIW, I've lived in many places as I followed my WH around for his career. There was sadness each time I left one of those places for the last time, even when we were moving someplace exciting. It's the closing of a chapter. It's sad even without all the bad things going on in our lives. I think the sad ending likely makes it a bit worse though. I guess I'll find out when I sell the house we own now. The last house we will ever live in together in a 27 year marriage.
2 Ddays and lots of TT
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
Posts: 452 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 33226
| Posted: 8:25 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013|
You can call me NIK
"Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in." -Cohen
Posts: 21882 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 33882
| Posted: 10:41 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013|
him (NPD Ex)
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
Posts: 2434 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
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