It's crazy to see the dysfunction so clearly when you have realized the truth. It's almost like I could see it dripping from his words. I do, however, need to do a better job of controlling my responses from the beginning instead of slamming on the breaks when I realize what I'm saying is just old, unhealthy things.
I had to see him for a conciliation session the other day and I swear all I saw/heard was a lower muppet head on a stick going "blah, blah - blah blah blah".
An ugly, haggard old stick with a worn out lower muppet head at that.
Good luck on your application!!
[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 8:39 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
But every time I got submit I get sad. There goes the life that I thought I had. Being a SAHM with a husband who I thought loved me. I just have to remind myself that this is a man who thinks that feeling abused is an opinion and since it's my opinion and not his, then it can't be true.
Hugs.. I hope your search goes well. I would attempt to give you some job search/interview/cover letter/thank you letter advice, but sounds like you've got all of that covered
Just think of how great you will feel when you are able to take care of yourself financially and not rely on that POS anymore.. And you may even make some new friends! It's a whole new beginning for you
[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 9:30 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
this is a man who thinks that feeling abused is an opinion and since it's my opinion and not his, then it can't be true.
Mind- boggling, isn't it?
I can't recall seeing a better description - in one sentence! - of the toxic mind.
Do. Not. Be. Sad.
- to see such psycho assclowns grow smaller and smaller in your rearview mirror...that's a good thing!
There goes the life that I thought I had. Being a SAHM with a husband who I thought loved me.
BTDT. Trust me, it's so much better on the other side. Keep hitting the submit button...do what you gotta do. Someday I promise you, you will look back at your time with him and wonder what the fuck possessed you to put up with all the shit.
I'm impressed...... and a bit jealous. This sounds so much like MY life and yet I lived it so many more years, decades, even, except that I was working.
It's hell detaching from an abusive person.
This was it for me, except that I didn't see it for what it was. Now I hope IC can help me get past it in fewer decades than it took to get here! You are so much wiser than I.
When I see another of these stories/situations, I can't help but wonder if they haven't been doing human cloning for a long time now. It seems like so many of us M the same abnormal, dysfunctional person. It's disturbing to think there could be so much of this naturally occurring.
I'm right there with you filling out online applications and adjusting to the idea of no longer being a SAHM. :(