that it's "unfair" that a wayward stbx has his kids 2 nights a week during summer vacation?
It's also unfair that the betrayed stbxw (me) gets to have "free time" to do "whatever I want" for 3 days a week during the summer?
Did you know that this arrangement gives ME a "great advantage" ?!!!?
Did you know that a little more than 48 hrs a week = 3 days of freedom?!
Did you know that when his stbxwife spent the first (and so far only ) "free time" packing and moving herself and 3 kids stuff out of the house that they own and into a more affordable apartment (now that she is suddenly a single mother who is moving on from a remorseless WH and trying to put the pieces of her life together), it is unfair to the man who used his penis to betray her and end his marriage?
Did you know that when I don't change the pick-up/drop off arrangements we have had from the beginning to something that will make poor stbxwh's life easier after all that I have done to him , it is "unfair" and that I only want to do a little while he makes "a big stretch?"
And finally, did you know that narcissist only think about themselves?
At this point he is being so irrational and ridiculous that all I can do is laugh. I guess life after me is not going the way that he imagined...poor lil tink tink... I should feel so bad for him right?
[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 2:07 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
Now that he's all settled with new life and wife, he wants more time with kids and I'm the big unwilling bitch.
Again- YOU opted out for one, the kids don't love new life and I will never 'cave' to the 50/50 arrangement because we are set in our groove AND I never had children to parent half the time.
I mean no offense to those that do, but let's not start this 5 yrs later.
[This message edited by wannabenormal at 2:52 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
I guess life after me is not going the way that he imagined...poor lil tink tink... I should feel so bad for him right?
A NPD will always think they are being mistreated.
So VERY true!
uh. yeah. What a moron.
In addition to being unfairly burdened with caring for his children during the summer, he is complaining that he has no personal life while I'm out being carefree and single. He even bought up the fact that I meet up with friends for lunch or dinner occasionally (because of the one time I mentioned this months ago when I was still trying to be "friends for the kid's sake". NEVER AGAIN!)
What I'd like to say...."I'm sorry NarcFace, when I kicked you out your social life was pretty full. You were spending your mornings screwing your mistress before coming home, occasionally taking her out for a cheap meal, spending your days and nights texting and talking to her behind my back, making plans with grimy new friends..busy, busy, busy! What happened? Oh...she's gone. They're gone. I'm gone. You f**d up. Deal with it, be a MUCH better dad than husband, stfu and LEAVE ME ALONE!"
But instead I say nothing. I'm learning!
For the record he almost never has them overnight during the school year. Not even the standard every other weekend deal because of his work schedule). I have our children 90+% of the time. He is so disgustingly incompetent that having his kids at all is toooo haaaard and nooot faaaair!! Waaaaaahhhh. Ridiculous.
I turned to him and said sweetly, I would love to play on a baseball team but I can't because I have to take DS to all his sports and extra curricular activities.
He had the decency to shut his gob at that point. HOnestly I really don't want to hear about all your free time you spend on your motorcycle or playing sports when I only get maybe 1 hour to myself all summer.
Man those guys can be thick sometimes.
It's like you wrote some of Perv's current biography.
You know, he actually told me, "your lawyer hurt my feelings!"
I actually spent time afterwards wracking my brain about what my lawyer could have said, because he's rather laid back and doesn't get excitable or rude (like Perv's).
What I realized is that I had discovered that he flubbed some numbers and I caught it. This is what hurt the man's feelings! That he was caught!
He also complains about money spent for kids and visits, but at one point contemplated fighting me for physical custody.
Who made what choices?
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.