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User Topic: News flash! You can't love yourself.
20WrongsVs1
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Exclaimation  Posted: 11:57 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This headline caught my eye, and I wanted to share this article here, since self-loathing is an issue that comes up frequently. What do y'all think about it?

http://emotionsandfeelings.com/love_yourself.htm

My IC recommended that I love and comfort my traumatized 8-year-old self, which is a hard concept to wrap my brain around, but this article provides some tools for doing just that.

The part about loving our future aspect, I really liked too. One could draw the same parallel between a healthy lifestyle and loving one's future aspect, too: I choose to run today, and pass up the french fries, as a way of expressing love to my 70-year-old aspect, so she can be healthy and active. And I choose to be devoted to my H and M, so she can have a loving partner by her side.


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"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

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JustWow
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that is a very cool perspective..... thank you for sharing


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edited for typos (I always have to!)


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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing this. I found it helpful.


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I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


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Broken1213
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really great article. Thank you for sharing! It's now saved as one of my favorites. :)


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