Oldest DD was a junior when A came out. She held it all inside. When she got to collage, it all fell apart for her. She ended up with a MIP, had to go to court...it was a mess.
With therapy she's been doing so much better. She suffers from depression and anxiety.
H tries to spend more ime with them now when they're home from school.
The damage is done. I don't think anything he does can repair it. He can build from here, but there is no "fix".
It makes me so sad to see what they have had to deal with. If anyone else hurt my kids like this I'd want them to die. H, I think has died a thousand deaths by all the issues he sees with the girls. He knows most were caused by him.
Maybe that's where my hatred of OW comes from. She knew H was M, knew we had kids and decided it was ok to fuck him anyway.