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User Topic: The price the kids pay
Flatlined123
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Default  Posted: 5:29 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oldest DD was a junior when A came out. She held it all inside. When she got to collage, it all fell apart for her. She ended up with a MIP, had to go to court...it was a mess.

With therapy she's been doing so much better. She suffers from depression and anxiety.

H tries to spend more ime with them now when they're home from school.

The damage is done. I don't think anything he does can repair it. He can build from here, but there is no "fix".

It makes me so sad to see what they have had to deal with. If anyone else hurt my kids like this I'd want them to die. H, I think has died a thousand deaths by all the issues he sees with the girls. He knows most were caused by him.

Maybe that's where my hatred of OW comes from. She knew H was M, knew we had kids and decided it was ok to fuck him anyway.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

Posts: 677 | Registered: Jun 2012
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fWH's parents cheated. He cheated. It rolls downhill.

Our children don't know about the LTA, but they accidentally found out about the CSA. That is actually helping them understand how their Dad could be selfish and withdrawn, which they certainly did notice over the years. Our daughter has trouble trusting men; told me that her Dad wasn't honest with himself. This was before Dday 2 for me. She has been very supportive of him since they have discussed his childhood. My son has internalized that a wife should allow her husband to do whatever he wants; because my fWH feared control so much he would bristle if I (rarely, because I had learned the lesson) expressed my opinion on his behavior. Fortunately he has a longterm girlfriend who is teaching him otherwise, and both of our kids are very kind and generous.

I have offered our daughter counseling, but so far she has declined. No matter how hard we try we can't shield them from the crap that life dishes out sometimes.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

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trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many think if the kids are teens/young adults it's not that bad. That's not true


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


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