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User Topic: Well lookie lookie who else is on the dating website......busted
She11ybeanz
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Evil  Posted: 8:04 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So.....I was browsing the dating website doing a search...and had narrowed down the type of person I was looking for and up pops Piper's sperm donor, WHO should NOT have popped up in my search by the way I narrowed down my search!!!

So....apparently...he is telling women that he has a degree (taking a few classes over a decade ago at a community college and never graduating doesn't constitute grounds for a degree), he is an "entrepreneur" who makes between $50,000 and $75,000 a year! Wow...he makes more than me now! Interesting...since he told child support enforcement that he can only afford the bare minimum of $65 a month because he is unemployed and living off ramen noodles..

He said, "No way" to being a smoker... (and yet smokes like a freight train when he drinks) and put "social drinker" in the "Do you drink" section and he is a serious binge-drinking alcoholic who should not drink at all his problem is so bad..... And then, in the section that says, "Do you have kids" he says "I'll tell you later!" He has THREE. Nice.

And, THIS is another thing that scares me about online dating.... the ones that bold-face lie about who they are to impress people.... scary... just scary!

Hmmm....I wonder if child support enforcement would be interested to hear about his new found fortune!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:06 AM, June 24th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THIS is another thing that scares me about online dating.... the ones that bold-face lie about who they are to impress people.... scary... just scary!

This is why we say that people unfold. A profile, emails, even a the early phone calls and dates can only tell you so much about a person. One writer I love phrased it that with the early stages of dating (not just online dating, any dating), you don't meet the person, you meet the representative who they send (i.e. their best version of themselves).

It takes time to get to know someone. Time to verify that they are who they claim (and often aspire) to be. That they are good for you, and that you are good for them.

This is why we work so hard not to get emotionally invested in someone early on, until we've given them a chance to unfold. This is why we are careful to diversify our sources of emotional stability, "grown up time", affirmation, rather than seeking it in a single person who we don't know yet. This is why dating takes time, patience, and a thick skin, and why it's vital to be in a healthy place before you embark on the journey.

But then you knew that.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yeah....I truly pity any girl that falls in his web! EEK! I think its funny in his "bio" that he says that he will not tolerate dishonesty... man!!! Who's callin the kettle black!!!??


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Obviously this would never work and people would use it to get back at exes, but wouldn't it be nice if there was a section where you could leave reviews on that person.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wouldn't it be nice if there was a section where you could leave reviews on that person.

Yes... and he would delete his account faster than a roadrunner on crack!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most of the sites do have a way to report people, but to the site, not other users.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I might be talking with my case worker at Social Services about his profile. She might find his information somewhat interesting.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is why we work so hard not to get emotionally invested in someone early on, until we've given them a chance to unfold. This is why we are careful to diversify our sources of emotional stability, "grown up time", affirmation, rather than seeking it in a single person who we don't know yet.

Dating is when you need all your other friends and relationships the most so you don't fall for crap like this because you are lonely and needy.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm....I wonder if child support enforcement would be interested to hear about his new found fortune!

I would absolutely take screen shots of that and show them to CSE. I was chatting with a nurse in my doctor's office about divorce and child support, etc., and she told me about something that happened to her and her husband and his ex-wife. Apparently the nurse and her husband run a business on the side selling health products, and they had sent an email to his son telling him that they were making like $100,000 a year and were hoping that he would join in. Well they were only making like $50,000 a year; and even though they supplied their tax forms, etc., to prove that they were making only $50,000 from the business, the judge used that email they sent and based the child support off the $100,000 they said they made.

Perhaps nothing will come of it, but I would definitely give it a shot..


Oh, and what a lying POS. FTG..

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 1:59 PM, June 24th (Monday)]


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And, THIS is another thing that scares me about online dating.... the ones that bold-face lie about who they are to impress people.... scary... just scary!

Isn't that exactly what I warned about?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, and honestly, those kinda things would throw red flags up to me. "I'll tell you later" on kids is really...fishy. Plus, if a guys need to TELL me that he is "honest" and a "good guy"...then he probably isn't.

I generally would just skip right over a profile like that.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I read this kind of stuff, it just amazes me that the one and only gal I reached out to on Match.com is my SO of almost 9 months.

She was pretty in her pics, but far prettier in person. She is very nice and thoughtful.

The only bad thing is that the primary reason I reached out to was her pic with two dogs.

One of the two dogs is mean, mean mean! I am a huge dog lover but can't stand her Jack Russell.

She didn't say anything about that in her profile.

Shame on her!

Shelly, that is pretty pitiful about your STBX. It would be funny to set up a phony profile and set him up with a fake date or something.

Am I bad or what!

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 10:48 PM, June 24th (Monday)]


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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