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Funny how OW deleted its page after I started posting a lot about FWH. How we had a romantic date, about what we did with our children and/or grandchildren. Coincidence? Maybe, but I like to think it was hurting it to see us happy.
It is for the best, but damn, I enjoyed laughing at OW and I know many of you did, too!
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
I won. (Not that there was ever really a contest. It was just nice to see tangible proof that she knows I won. )
But as I've stated before, I was a little jealous of those who got to laugh at the OWs who continually flaunt their stupidity and lack of morals on FB, since the Whore from my situation is too stupid to even know how to turn on a computer, let alone join FB and post on there. Now that so many do it on their phones, though, I keep wondering if she will join up someday. I have a SIL who has NEVER owned or turned on a computer, but she has a Tracfone and joined FB and even lets me know if she likes my pictures, etc.
I don't really keep my FB very private. My philosophy is to never post anything that I would not want the whole world (or some OWs/Stalkers) to see. So yes, it is mostly just general news or positive stuff, pictures, events, etc.
I would love to think the whore looked at my page, but I just don't think she is smart enough to figure out how to do that even if she wanted to.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 30 - Yikes!
Personally, I think this will go miles toward your healing.
Do you think that those who check the OW's facebook are not healed?
It has been 7 years for me and believe me, if whore had one, I would check it.
I also sometimes check her spawn's and their spouse's facebooks to see if they added a new friend (the whore), or to see if they mention her or post any info about her.
They never do. I have been wasting my time (a few minutes each week) checking for any possible new info on the whore). Do you think I need to be healed? This means she has "space" in my head. Who cares? This is not a problem that needs to be solved, the way I see it.
AJ's mom or anybody else, I mean no disrespect, and I appreciate your views on this topic though they may be different than mine.
I just want to present a different perspective.
I am a reasonably happy, healthy 54 year old woman, closer than ever to my husband. I don't think it means we are not healed if we check FB (or I should say it does not mean I am not healed if I check it...I can't speak for others).
However, if there is an obsession that interferes with normal activities and is a priority in one's life, in that case, I think it might indicate a change is needed.
Please accept my perspective as well.
I had found that constant checking on the other women (yes, plural in my case) constantly pulled me backwards. The real estate I let them rent in my head got in the way of me putting one foot in front of the other. Their drama became my drama and just one more thing I could ruminate on to build up my victimhood resume.
Had I had the opportunity to R like you and SMS have had, I'm quite sure it would have done damage to my efforts to R, for many of the same reasons already mentioned.
You obviously find this level of checking necessary. To me, at the end of the day, I could care less what she/they, her spawn, her family or her friends are up to.
You're right - as you don't understand my logic, I'm not understanding yours. As long as you're completely confident they have nothing to do with your FWH, then why bother giving them a moment's thought? What does it change?
Edited to add t/j's.
[This message edited by ajsmom at 2:00 PM, June 24th (Monday)]
You obviously find this level of checking necessary
I absolutely do NOT find it necessary and only do it when I'm bored and feel like finding out what's new on FB. It is entertaiment for me. A couple of years ago, I found a pic of the whore when one of her kids got married. She wore what looked like a black baggy witch costume for her "mother of the groom dress." I took the picture and added a pointy hat with drawing software. It was so much fun. I enjoy such seemingly juvenile things but I won't apologize for it and don't think there is anything wrong with me, or that needs to be fixed or healed regarding those acts.
I actually do understand and respect your perspective far more than you are willing to understand or respect mine.
To each his own, and I'll simply agree to disagree on this and stop posting on SMS's thread about it.