Yeah I understand that. I would not trade with my W either. When I have bad days I can look at her and she can give me an apology. She can show me she hurts. It just doesn't seem as bad as what I have experienced.
I am sure it is rough knowing you hurt someone so bad, but again if we stay do they really have to deal with this long term ? Or do they look at it like . . "whew, I messed up, but hey I came through without any lasting consequences."
Generalizing I guess, but it just feels as if R and forgiveness absolves the A. Getting a new improved M, in spite of the catalyst, seems to balm a lot of that hurt.
DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.