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User Topic: 17 year old guy & 34 year old woman?
idiot85
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's a disciplined guy- has his own place (does prizefighting) up at 5am every day to train I'd say he's a mature 17 yr old but like I said- I personally couldn't date a 17 yr old and I'm 28 not 34.

She's... dare I say immature? I mean she's nice not weird but only just moved from home and she is quite little so gets ID'd a lot!

Makes me think like what's his name- Tooms from the X-files!! That's weird... I don't know his name- he's in the green mile too.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They've been sort of friends for 4 months- she's told him he's too young consistently.

^^^^ This, check me on it, but I think it is called grooming, it is what pedophiles do. Not saying she is a pedophile.. she may just be thinking this.

BUT..

She went on a date, and ended up running into him...(was the date planned to run into him) and he was off. Of course he was off... her words are not matching her actions... she never says she doesn't want to date him, she tells him he is too young.

He didn't respond to a text- she went round his place (he has his own place) and she pretended to not know why he was acting weird- he said something like "ok well if you haven't even considered me that way- why are you here- you may as well leave" - she said "OK so I have considered but I just think you're too young- you can't even buy me a drink" then apparently one thing led to another!

Why do this? If she wasn't interested in sexually (and that may be ALL she was interested in) Then why go to his place. Leave the conversation for another day... after all if he is too young to date, he should be too young for sex.

And yes it is wierd, and this kid needs help when he gets dumped.... because that will be just what she does.

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K


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stage of life is much more than just maturity, idiot85. He is 17. Does he live with his parents? Does he have a job? Is he in school? Does he have plans to go to university?

Surely she, as an adult, has her own place, income stream(s), etc. that would make their relationship extremely unbalanced.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ummm...no, no...oh hell no. That is just wrong. Add me to the group that would be kicking somebody's ass if a 34 year old woman went after my 17 year old son.

I think it is just gross to be with somebody young enough to be your child...no matter what the age group is. Have you ever noticed how the older person typically says "I don't look my age" ? Yeah, they do. It's like they are trying to regain their youth by being with somebody significantly younger. Well, that isn't going to happen...no matter who they do


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idiot85
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm more like devil's advocate here you know- I'm still thinking it's weird!!

I don't think pedophile though- he is honestly like over 6ft of muscle and beard ha.

He has his own place and drives makes his own money- no uni he's 100% into boxing and makes money from prize fighting as a senior amateur boxer (age 17-34).

He ran into her because he wanted to- nothing to do with her but I suspect he planned it. Why not wait for another day- I guess because she does like him that way.

She doesnt say she looks young- I'm saying that!! She says "omg what have I done" type of thing and his sister who works here is saying if you like him, go out and just see.

He's a bit of ladies man/boy- been with a lot of girls- whereas she was with a guy for a few years then they finished up last year.

He's going to want to talk to me soon to try and get me to tell my wife to persuade her to go meet him tonight!!


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Posts: 575 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Old Blighty
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So is she some sort of conquest for him?


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idiot85
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm wondering the same Amazonia- he told me he really likes her and thinks she's funny blah blah blah and she has already been conquered but I wonder if he thinks it will be 'cool'- if you get me


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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can bet the farm on that Ama. It occurred to me he's likely quite the player and SHE is the one who will end up hurt here. But honestly good sense should have told her that to begin with IMO.



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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you ever noticed how the older person typically says "I don't look my age

Yes, I have noticed this. I have noticed womanizing old men say it too, and they make me ill because I see them all for the age they are.

I do understand that often times a petite 34 year old woman who dresses and acts young will actually "appear" much younger but if you take a closer look, I'll bet you will see her as the fully 34 year old that she is.


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

weird, creepy, just no. My DS is 18. I'm with Sister.


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idiot85
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He rang me like "come on mate I really like her and want to see her again- help me out here- age is nothing"

I said "nothing to do with me- I personally think you're a bit young" well that really just offends him tbh!! He got a bit moody then... maybe like a teenager would?! Ha


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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let's see - I'm 33. My oldest nephew is 19 and my nieces are both 18, so both older than this boxer guy. And they are, for the most part, pretty mature and awesome kids. But they are KIDS and SO young to me. I just thought about their friends/boyfriends, thought of myself dating one of them, and wanted to simultaneously and . They are children.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i85, I know the actor you mean.....he married his "child bride" when she was 16. Courtney Stodden.

His name is Doug....something. Can't remember.

THAT is a trainwreck of a relationship.


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Doug Hutchison. He's 54. Courtney is now 18. She was 16 when they married, he was 52. That whole thing is just...UGH!


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are they still married??


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You betcha


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idiot85
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you MissesJai that's the guy- now that is defo wrong wrong WRONG! Properly put me right off him- I always call him tooms.

I'm undecided if this falls in the same category- anyway they've gone out tonight.


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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why are you so worried about this? It is not your business and I would stay out of it.(not to sound mean)
It just sounds like drama.

He is 17 he is a baby, even if he looks older he is not. Just because he seems mature does not mean he knows how to handle life in a way that someone who has more experince would.

I also think this is a player mode for him... She is the older hot woman that all teenage boys would like to get ahold of and have for awhile. The thing is what is going to happen when he becomes of age and get to go party, have fun, and be the normal kid in his twenties.
It will not last. If he is hitting and quieting it with other girls that is all this will be. And this 34 year old should know better.

Yes, it is strange that a 34 yr old would want to be with a 17 yrs old. And then to have sex with them? That is sorta nasty.

It is all about the attraction of being wanted by a younger man/boy and the attraction of the man/boy with an older woman..

Can you see what he would be saying to all his boys that are his age about it???


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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a 17 year old daughter. If a 34 year old man was trying to date her, he'd wake up in a tub of ice missing some vital organs.

When you are older and more mature, you can make these choices. Big age differences when one person is not yet a mature adult just scream "wrong" to me.


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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ick.
just ick.

I'm fairly openminded but 17? What life experience doe he have? How can he have a real perspective on what the world is?

I can see the older person liking the attention and the sex, it says look how young I am. But it screams of mommy issues for the younger person, and major self esteem issues for the older person.


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