"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
she's old enough to know what's going down.
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What has the lawyer said about just going to get her? Is that possible?
Inform your WW that she's welcome to stay and date out there, just not as your wife. Let her know DD is coming home with or without her.
All through text and E-mail. From what you have described, she will deny any agreement that you come to verbally. If you need to, tell her you are too hurt to speak to her and feel safer by doing it through text and/or E-mail.
A Dates: March 2013-May 2013
D-Day 2013: May 24
MW: My former best friend.
But, I did get to talk to my daughter. I told her than she can come and visit with me or with my mom, her grandma, while her mom is figuring things out and very unstable in every way. My wife is saying that she might be okay with that. That's what I'm working on, is getting her to agree to let me daughter come back home.
second, i wouldn't put too much stock in her saying she isn't sexually attracted to you. Of course she's going to say that. She has to figure out why she cheated on you and that's all she can come up with. At least she hasn't rewritten the marriage and come up with all sorts of evil things you've done.
Basically, she has poor boundaries, she cheated on you with someone she probably knows is a cretin, and now she's trying to figure out why.
Also, (a little scientific) once a woman has sex with a man a hormone is released that makes her want to be loyal to him (in the short term), and of course the whole unicorn fart thing about the passion.
The thing is, that stuff wears off when she has to live with him day to day. Dirty underwear and unwashed dishes happen every time you live with someone. I'm guessing that a month after living with this "guy" she will really regret it. Who knows if she will have the courage to ask to come back to you. And who knows if you will accept her back.
just don't take what she says too seriously. She's in the fog and she has to justify her actions.
focus on getting your daughter back without having to get the court involved. And if you do have to get the court involved, then get the court involved.
hang in there man.
'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'
Sucks from the M side. However, If she's making all these changes, coupled with the A do you really see a future with her?
That you love her very much and are over the moon know that she's home.
That her mother is in a petty bad mental place right now but you want her to be safe with you until her mother gets her act back together and comes home to you both.
She doesn't need to know that Mom might not be coming home any time soon or ever.
Just keep her safe with you.
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