Fatty B and Happy Pants.
Peas in a Pod.
Generally I do think, FTG. He hid his true spots and stripes for so long, it is like a total stranger now, or a cyber-phone bully across the sound waves.
Mediation is very interesting with this type of person, as "consequences" pile up.
I feel weak and strong all at the same time, because you know what? I and we BS's KNOW the full extent of capability, but Fatty B and counterparts have not yet made these lovely discoveries.
I know, I'm not supposed to think of them, and I don't generally, just when something happens.
It struck me recently (Ouch) that "it" is almost totally opposite what he made fun of in or about people, and now no longer does.
Yes, FTG is my rule of thumb, and I combat any linger wistfulness of yesteryear with the knowledge I now have.
I hear stories of Happy Pants (I think I'll change his name from Perv for a change) siblings and they are some amazing people. It's kind of impressive how he hid so well his "dark side", yet truly is like many others.
One of the stories is a severe alcoholic who lost another job recently and comes up in family conversations. This is a very educated man, complete with medical background, even ran a hospital ward for addicts (huh?) and has the problem so badly that he is not functioning again. Apparently there is a fable about him that he got someone pregnant long ago and took off on her.
There are others in that category, some have changed what "team" they are on...and it always seemed so amazing to my family and I how Happy Pants "escaped all that".
There are so many, many siblings that I wonder too if one or both parents were not SA? They were certainly alcoholic.
The denial is almost an art form, isn't? And almost works, when my gear is down, like the blame-shifting used to do.
This is a good Happy Pants line: "You're lawyer hurt my feelings!!!"
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge