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northernarea
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has been 26 since months since by affairs were discovered. Since then, we have been involved with three seperate couples therapists and we each are seeing an individual therapist. At our last joint session, it was suggested that I go and see a grief therapist. I dont think I can do it. The thought of going to see someone else and retelling my story again just seems like it would be emotionally exhausting. Am I wrong in feeling this way? I just dont feel that I am mentally able to tell my story yet again.

Posts: 15 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: DC Metro
stilllovinghim
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get used to it. I'm 4 yrs out since d-day and talked about it yesterday during a psych eval and it'll be brought up again at my upcoming psychiatrist apt. Every new obgyn, general practicioner, blood drive, etc. I have to let them know.

So suck it up and get used to it.

[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 6:26 PM, June 27th (Thursday)]


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

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badchoice
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, it's hard, but it is time to show your commitment to you and your BS's healing.

The thought of going to see someone else and retelling my story again just seems like it would be emotionally exhausting.

I just dont feel that I am mentally able to tell my story yet again.

This is selfish thinking. You are letting your feelings rule the day. You need to act based on your commitments, not how you feel.


Me: fWH/BH 46

Separated transitioning to D


Posts: 725 | Registered: May 2012 | From: L.A.
northernarea
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sucking it up, I been sucking it up for 26 months. I guess I am selfish for thinking of myself for one day. I know I will always live with this, and I try to work each day at it.

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hardlessons
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do you think that after 2 years you are still the hamster in the wheel?


Me WH
Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."

Posts: 880 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona
JustDesserts
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Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Could you please share WHY it was suggested you see the grief therapist? To grieve WHAT? It would help me to have a clear understanding. Thank you.


2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To grieve what? His mom died. That hits people pretty hard.

I think people are being a bit harsh. Yeah, your choices were horrible. It's also not wrong to feel tired. Digging through this pain is NOT easy and tired is a very valid response at times.

It was mentioned on another thread that you couldn't post with a stop sign because you were a madhatter. I didn't see that anywhere in your posts.


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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JustDesserts
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To grieve what? His mom died. That hits people pretty hard.

I had no idea that that is what he was referring to, hence my asking for clarification.


2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
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