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User Topic: He agreed to take the Poly
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, but I agree that he is not telling you the truth. Either he is still having the affair, or there is information that about it that he does not want you to have.

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Together 13 years.
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Posts: 1621 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
realitybites
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What he is telling you in a backwards way is he is GOING to have to move out after the poly because more stuff will come out.

Are you prepared for that? Meaning what are your boundries if he fails the poly? Lets think about that.


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crazycatlady
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two points:
1. He should be ready and willing to take the polygraph if he has nothing to hide.
2. Placing guilt on you for wanting him to take it means he is lying and manipulative.
My advice? Tell him to skip the poly, make him move out, see a lawyer, and finally buy a damn beautiful purse and celebrate.


Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.
William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"
D-Day: Nov 30, 2006
"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night."
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Posts: 1711 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Etherville
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why on earth would he say "I'll take the test, then I will move out"

Simple---because he is not remorseful.

He very well may have told you everything now(although I doubt it), but he doesn't get it. He sure as hell isn't going to put your feelings in front of his.

So what do you do from here?

Continue with your personal healing. Emotionally detach from him until he commits to you and the marriage. Believe me, you will know when his remorse comes from the heart. You will not have to search for it.

Ask yourself--do you really want to live with someone who treats you with such disrespect?


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Married 21yrs.(together 26yrs.)

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