Normally I don't have a lot to rant about the STBXH, he pays his bills on time, he makes minimum effort with DS..etc.
But one area that he seems to constantly fall down on is his self absorbed ways.
He recently decided to try to get work at home so he didn't have to travel so much. In his words "to spend more time with DS and give you a break" I think I physically cringed when he said that.
So today DS only goes to school for a couple of hours (last day to pick up report cards). Ex had agreed to pick up DS and spend the day together.
I mention it last night and he says "oh I agreed to pick up my buddy at the airport". Wait, what??? You agreed to spend time with your son!
DS is 12 and 1/2 or so and would be fine to stay at home until I got there, but that isn't the point. Realizing he is looking bad, he backpeddles and says he will get him after he picks up his buddy. Oh geeze thanks, what a saint.
Then I have DS enrolled in a paddling program with our local aquatic club (we had one of the club paddlers in the olympics last year, so proud). I work at 7:30 am and earliest drop off is 8. I can pick him up but I need someone to take him in.
I ask ex to give me his schedule so I can work out when he can take him, when his vacation days are. I still don't have it, he makes no committment to help. Just because DS lives with me doesn't mean that he is exempt from parental duties.
I want to throw it in his face that my BF is willing to take DS in the mornings to the club, even though it means he will have to get up early (he doesn't work until 3 pm). A man who is not DS' father is willing to put in more effort. He should be ashamed.
Sometimes he makes me so mad. Mad because by putting in minimal effort he looks like such a great parent. Just like our marriage. Minimal effort but looks great to everyone else.
I want to smack him with a frozen carp repeatedly.