[This message edited by Running the Race at 10:51 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]
It was told to me that Happy Pants "fired me" from being his spouse and it sounds like that's being done to you, also. It's helped me a little to work on detaching, but has been so long it's not easy to develop new thought patterns.
It sounds kind of like she wants to hold you at arms length and control contact with you, but that's not fair to you.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.