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User Topic: It really does get better...
Audrina
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have not been on in a while but decided to check in.

I am relieved to say that it does get "better". At least it has for me.

It has been almost 4 yrs since DDAY...we have not had a cheating related argument for about 9 months now.

I just don't feel the need to bring it up anymore, rehash, think about it etc I'm enjoying life and my relationship.

I know that if it ever happened again, I would be gone in a second.


Triggers have diminished to almost nothing and I am relieved.
I feel safe.


Me (betrayed): 35
Him:45


Posts: 259 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Canada
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful update!!! Thank you for sharing.

Posts: 33855 | Registered: Mar 2011
sadallthetime
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Member # 26845
Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post - sorry

[This message edited by sadallthetime at 5:54 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]


Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF

Posts: 104 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
sadallthetime
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Member # 26845
Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Audrina))) I am almost 4 years out also. It's getting better. I am enjoying life & my marriage again. Agree with all you said especially if it ever happened again I would be out of here in a second. Both FWH and know that. Our relationship is loving. Thanks for sharing.,


Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF

Posts: 104 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
TarheelMom
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Member # 35726
Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear this! :) I'm happy for you!!!


Me: BW

Posts: 252 | Registered: Jun 2012
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
petite71
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Member # 36475
Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing!!!


1st DD 03/24/2012 2nd DD 07/13/2012 TT A. in 2002 same girl when we were dating.
Status:Getting Stronger...we can get through this & are healing together
BS(me):41
WS(Husband):40
LTA 10 yrs EA/PA 9 times. friends with benefits.
Us..Together 12 yr

Posts: 125 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
sri624
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Member # 33956
Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks for sharing....i guess it really does take a long time for it to get better...4 years....geez. but i am glad that you shared this. it only reinforces to me that it takes a long time...and a lot of hard work to get through this. it cant be rushed in any way. thanks again.


BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
Attempting R in bi

Posts: 916 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
myone and only
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Member # 26450
Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm also glad I read this. Haven't posted in a long time. It's almost 4 years for me and just when I think the worst is over, BAM, a trigger sets me off back in time and the anger just overwhelms me and puts me in a funk for days. Then I come out of it and things are better.
Anyone else going through this? Will this ever end? Or is this the life I now must lead? Please help.


me BS 51
her WS 45
status: R
"Just You And I"
dday 11-28-09

Posts: 67 | Registered: Dec 2009
rachelc
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Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

is this the life I now must lead

wondering this myself. I have choices I realize but none seem very good to me.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."


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