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User Topic: fyi: Contacting bs via Facebook
HopeFloats2272
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's quite possible that this has been mentioned here before but I'm new and haven't been able to read all 5,273,821 posts yet...but I plan to...

FYI: for those of you that want to contact the AP's BS and the only way to contact them is through Facebook messaging be advised that they may not get the message in their normal inbox. FB has an "other" inbox (like spam) that messages are sent to if you two don't have any mutual friends. Unlike the normal inbox, there aren't any notifications indicating that there are new messages in the "other" inbox.

You'd be surprised what you'll find in there if you've never checked (especially if its a message from a BS.) I sent one shortly after DDay and nothing but crickets. I figured they were dealing with it on their own and that was fine by me (their A had been over for a year and a half when I found out about it.) Almost 2 months after I sent the message I was informed of this "other" inbox. I check mine out and "wow!" there is a year old message from someone in Canada working on her family tree and she thinks we might be related! (Not where you thought the story was going, was it? : ) It hits me a day later that the BH never got my message. I didn't attempt to contact him after that because I just didn't want another human being to be in the sh*t-hole that I was in. (I'm gonna take cover from all the stones that are going to come my way : )

To find this inbox you need to be on the "full site" version not moblie. On the left side column you will see "messages." Click on it. A window will pop up or a drop down menu will appear. Either way, there is a tab named "other." Click on it and hope there aren't any major surprises in there. Keep in mind that I haven't used the PC version in a long time and FB could have changed this feature making this post totally irrelevant.


BS- 40, WH 38
Married 13yrs, 2 Sweet Boys-5 & 9
DD#1: 1/10/12- 6mo EA
DD#2: 8/23/12-revealed 1PA, 2ONS in 2010 and 1EA/PA in 2004
DD#3: 9/10/12- ONS w/friend in 2010
Lots of other crap and TT - basically I was married to a guy that forgot he was

Posts: 38 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Maryland
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so true.

However, Facebook is rolling out a new feature in which you can pay $1 to ensure that the message goes to the INBOX, not the "other" box.

I tried it, and it works.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
7 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 2232 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
HopeFloats2272
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Member # 39264
Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good to know, Want2Help.

Do you know if the $1 fee includes the sender and receiver?


BS- 40, WH 38
Married 13yrs, 2 Sweet Boys-5 & 9
DD#1: 1/10/12- 6mo EA
DD#2: 8/23/12-revealed 1PA, 2ONS in 2010 and 1EA/PA in 2004
DD#3: 9/10/12- ONS w/friend in 2010
Lots of other crap and TT - basically I was married to a guy that forgot he was

Posts: 38 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Maryland
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No stones coming from me. I am wondering if someday he will eventually find it.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I contact the BBF it will be through FB because I can't find his email other than that. That is what I"m afraid of as well. ugh!


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
Eudaimonia
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Member # 32445
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahhh, now that explains why nothing ever came of the one BS I was able to message on FB years ago. I always just assumed his wife found it first and deleted it!


So long, and thanks for all the fish!

Posts: 472 | Registered: Jun 2011
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