Even with this flexibility built into our agreement, for the past three years my XWH has ignored the arrival of summer and carries on seeing DD once or twice a month. He sees DS about once every three months, mostly because DS doesn't like to go to his father's house.
He doesn't take them on trips any other time of the year, either. The holidays when it's his turn to take them, as per the parenting agreement, he usually declines to do so.
When we were married, we took lots of trips together as a family to see family out of state, or Hawaii, Mexico, even Europe. Now, I do what I can to organize vacation trips for me and my kids, but I can't afford to do it more than once a year, if that, and our destinations are mostly nearby and budget-priced.
How common is it for a father to decline to take his kids on vacation after the divorce? He and his second wife travel plenty on their own.
[This message edited by josie11 at 5:54 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]
That was 3 years ago. My kids haven't been on a vacation since.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
The second summer he took them to a cottage with his girlfriend.
Last summer and this summer, he didn't/isn't taking them at all. Last year he used his vacation to get a vasectomy, this summer, I'm really not sure what his excuse is.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
There's definitely no love lost between my teens and their "stepmother." They can't stand being around her. Maybe that's the problem.
XH takes them a maximum of one week during summer holidays, usually less. Both kids seem okay with short little "bursts" of dad-time.
It used to bother me, but now, not so much.
It is what it is.
Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.