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User Topic: Facebook post by OW Vent
CatchyUsername
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK - the OW posted publicly on her facebook wall one of those picture quote things: "Nobodys perfect. I may not be the most beautiful, the sexiest, or the girl with the perfect body, but I don't pretend to be someone I am not. I am good at being me. I might not be proud of some of the things I have done in my past, but I am proud of who I am today.

UGH!!!! Unless she has seen the light in the last 7 weeks then holy shit, this makes me want to PUKE.

Just venting. Oh and FYI both WH and I have her blocked I just looked at her public page from my mom's account. :( yeah, picking the scab.


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Red  Posted: 7:43 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since this isn't about reconciling, we will move it to General.

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CatchyUsername
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry about that - I have a hard time figuring out where to post sometimes. Since we are in a "reconciling" state of mind I thought I was supposed to post there.

How should one decide?


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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you're venting about the OP it doesn't belong in Recon.

Other than that, if you're reconciling and/or having issues with reconciling, it belongs in the Recon forum


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That kind of stuff never ceases to amaze me. Whoreible used to post all kinds of crap about integrity, truth, and REAL relationships. Then she got a new boyfriend and started posting pictures of her dream house (picture a log cabin trailer filled with deer heads and a coffee table made out of an engine block with a piece of glass on top of it) and engagement rings (one was camo... Another set looked like mud tires) and I realized she was just pathetic. Someone here described her as "human tofu". They have no identity apart from whoever they are immersed in. No flavor, no color, no idea who they are until someone tells them.

She has me blocked now, and while I miss the entertainment, it really is a healthy thing for me.

You'll hear that you need to quit giving her head space, and while I agree with that, I won't lie. Her FB posts were a big clue to every time JM broke nc. I knew something was up by the tone of her posts. (I swear to god she actually posted "I'm so happy I could poop a rainbow" one day)


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HFSSC,
started posting pictures of her dream house (picture a log cabin trailer filled with deer heads and a coffee table made out of an engine block with a piece of glass on top of it) and engagement rings (one was camo... Another set looked like mud tires) and I realized she was just pathetic. Someone here described her as "human tofu".
OMG, I think that is the funniest thing I have ever heard!!!! THAT alone would be enough to keep me entertained for a lifetime!


me BS female 55/him WS 58
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 6763 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PPGA, I did save some of the pictures on my photobucket account. The funniest thing ever was when I posted here about the deer heads and antlers and Aesir asked if she was banging Gaston ( from Beauty and the Beast). He was kind enough to post a video clip of the movie where Gaston is singing and the house did look eerily similar.

Affair down, indeed. The only way he could have affaired down any lower was if he'd banged an actual pig.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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AmberDust
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our MOW posts quotes and musings about her conviction that FWH will drop everything, leave me and come for her one day, if only she loves him hard enough. All she has to do is wait and love him, because one day he will come to his senses. It irritates me to no end.

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scared&stronger
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have to remember that for SOME people FB is about reflecting a cultivated image. People see what you post, not your actions or what is in your heart. FB can be a great source of self help it also be a great place of self delusion.


WS 45
BS 43

Met when we were 17 and 15. Together since 1983, married since 1985. Two kids, B21, G15.

d-day 4-3-07

Life has a way of making us get our panties in a wad.....I refuse to wear panties ever again.


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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our MOW posts quotes and musings about her conviction that FWH will drop everything, leave me and come for her one day, if only she loves him hard enough. All she has to do is wait and love him, because one day he will come to his senses. It irritates me to no end.

We have the same thing. She post daily something that she makes public in hopes he'll reach out to her. She even posted her new twitter info. Pathetic. Of course she blames me for keeping such close tabs that he's trapped and can't talk to her. She doesn't understand why they just can't be friends. They are delusional

I posted this today as a retort.

You can't lose what you never had.
You can't keep what's not yours.
And you can't hold on to something that doesn't want to stay.

I know your not supposed to give them head space. She just makes me so damn mad. She presents herself on FB as a victim. You'd think her friends and family would be sick if it by now.

I hear ya Catchyusername


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 14 and 11
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/12/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HFSSC:

started posting pictures of her dream house (picture a log cabin trailer filled with deer heads and a coffee table made out of an engine block with a piece of glass on top of it) and engagement rings (one was camo... Another set looked like mud tires) and I realized she was just pathetic. Someone here described her as "human tofu".

I think we may have the same OW.

If she and her current "man" match clothes constantly, then we DEFINITELY have the same OW (all camo, all black $ white plaid, etc.).

Human tofu indeed!

(End t/j)


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They really are pathetic creatures, huh? Only slightly more pathetic than our wayward spouses, unfortunately.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Catchy - we all (well, many of us) feel compelled to pick the scab occasionally. I've blocked and then unblocked wannabe OW many times. One time my H posted my photos on one type of social media, along with loving words about our relationship and the things we enjoy doing together. A few days later she posted on her own page of a different social media how she felt a good marriage meant hobbies that DON'T include one's spouse.

I had to laugh, wondering if she was trying to convince herself or us that she was happy.


excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

whoa---I just blocked the OW on FB. Even though we weren't friends, we have mutual friends and I would occasionally see crap that she posted on their pages. And I would check out her pages, too. thanks for the tip!


Me: BS 46
Him: LCB--lying, cheating bastard 50
D-Day 4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j I remember those camo rings, HFSSC and the clip by Aesir. That was fun! The rings were butt ugly, though. end t/j

CatchyUsername, they are so freaking delusional these OW's oftentimes. The OW in our soap opera did the same. About what a survivor it is. Such a victim! Very pathetic. OW has now deleted its FB page, so I don't get to have any laughs at its expense anymore.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PainPain,

Just watched you video again, for the first time in a long time. Every time I watch it I am at a different place in R. and every time I think this is soooo true!!!! Thanks,


BS (me)59 FWH 71
Married 35 years
4 children and 3 grandchildren
5 yrs into R.
Now that he has changed and become the man he should have been all along, why should I start over?

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PainPain,
Just watched you video again, for the first time in a long time. Every time I watch it I am at a different place in R. and every time I think this is soooo true!!!! Thanks,
Glad to be of assistance. I just checked it, and I have over 3,000 views! Now, shouldn't I be paid royalties or something? Lol!

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 2:42 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)]


me BS female 55/him WS 58
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 6763 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course she blames me for keeping such close tabs

MOW told me something similar. She told me my WH should want to come home to me and not have to be treated like I own him Um okay I know I don't own him, I never begged for him to stay home. I pretty much every DDay kicked him out. He has begged me to come home and has begged me to give him another chance. Bet she'd love to know that tidbit of info.

These OW are delusional. They honest to god think that we have their MM chained to the wall and all we do is abuse them

I'm sorry but their twisted way of thinking is quite pathetic if you ask me. And all the crap they post on FB is to make them feel better about themselves. Prove that they are a good person.

The OW believe what they want to because to think the other way would mean that they actually meant nothing and were used as a means for the bad coping skills of a WS.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
In R
"If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth." -Carl Sagan

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BetrayalHurts
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG.....my OW posted that exact same post.....

Either we have the same OW or they are all using the same OW manual


M 25 years
BW Me - 50's
WH Him - 60's
OW 25 years younger
D-Days too numerous to mention last D-day being 12-2-11 *OW went on fishing trip 5-21-13*

"A relationship is only made for two, but some bitches don't know how to count"


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Nailinmyforehead
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh- hate to break it to you, but my WW's AP posted the same damned thing on his FB making it public. I assume hoping she will reach out to him. Same post, and he puts these sappy things out there a few times a week. Like some heart broken teenage girl. Bastard.


"Son, you've got the future- shining like a piece of gold, but I swear as we get closer- it looks more like a lump of coal"

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