Topic: Struggling with humiliation
Member # 19234
| Posted: 11:39 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I have experienced many emotions during R. However the past few days I feel an overwhelming sense of humiliation on so many levels. I feel humiliated that wh cheated on me. I feel humiliated imagining him with ow. Both the ea and pa ows. I feel humiliated that we had sex when he was not attracted to me and I had no idea. I feel humiliated that he thought so little of me. I feel humiated that I gave him a second chance and he did it again. I even strangely feel humiliated at mc. (Mc did nothing to make me feel that way). Wh is doing a lot of things right this time around in terms of R.
Why do I feel such deep humiliation?
Posts: 199 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 30826
| Posted: 11:44 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
Because being treated with such disrespect,such a lack of regard for our emotional and physical well being, is humiliating. Giving another chance,only to have them shit all over it is humiliating.
Im humiliated too.
M: June 2001
Status: Currently in R..very happy with this *new* husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 6109 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 38921
| Posted: 11:54 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I have never been so humiliated in all my life.. To imagine him telling someone else about me and my M....hate him today..tomorrow????
Posts: 142 | Registered: Apr 2013
Member # 38139
| Posted: 1:26 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
me too.....me too. i agree with Confused. The complete and total lack of respect...the fact that the person who swore to love us intentionally made a choice they knew would cause such devastation.....the fact that it happened right under our nose....how did we not see it? how were we so blind? I think thats the most humiliating part for me. I feel so stupid.
I have read this here so many times, and i believe its true.....it was his choice. There was nothing you did to make him make that choice.
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"
Posts: 308 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 34353
| Posted: 2:06 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
You have nothing to feel ashamed about. He broke his vows, not you. I think all BS feel this way, but what I have learned going thru this is it doesn't matter if I gained weight, or was bitchy or whatever, he made the choice to cheat and I didn't do anything wrong.
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1394 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
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