Topic: I'm so dumb!
Member # 39669
| Posted: 4:50 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I don't know where to start SI. Wow, I'm so dumb, and you guys were so right.
He was fine. OK. Doing GREAT. AWESOME. Boy, I feel so dumb and doing a horrible job at holding back my tears.
Wants nothing to do with our daughter
Posts: 75 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Newwhere
Member # 36130
| Posted: 4:58 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
Don't know facts and details, but you're not DUMB for wanting to believe the best of someone you love. I'm sorry you're hurting. It's on him, not you.
excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."
Posts: 986 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 35846
| Posted: 5:01 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
There is nothing dumb about loving and trusting someone.
It's time to turn it around and time to start loving you right now.
We are here if you want to get it out.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
We have R'd
Posts: 3800 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 31240
| Posted: 5:27 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I know you feel like the tears will never end, but they will. Your grief, anger, and fear are all to real, and sometimes - often - tears are the best way to let those feelings go.
[This message edited by sisoon at 5:27 PM, July 1st (Monday)]
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 10075 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 31528
| Posted: 6:42 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
You are not dumb. You love and trusted him. We don't expect those we love to cause us immense pain. It's ok to cry. It helps to let it out. I've sobbed on the floor countless times after Dday. It does get better. Please keep posting. We are here for you.
Sending you strength.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:44 PM, July 1st (Monday)]
Posts: 35167 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 35971
| Posted: 7:01 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
You are a good person.
He is an a$$hole.
You respect people and give them the benefit of the doubt.
He does not respect people and should never again be given the benefit of a doubt.
Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
Dday May 2012
Posts: 852 | Registered: Jun 2012
Member # 36072
| Posted: 7:15 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I told my WH how I was such an idiot for trusting him. His reply was, "You're not an idiot for trusting the one person who should never betray you. All it means is you're a good, decent person."
You're not dumb. You are a good person, and good people expect the best from others. Much too often we are let down.
One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz
Posts: 1137 | Registered: Jul 2012
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