WTH? A month ago and you're just telling us now? WH had a therapy appt for him the next day and promised to talk to the therapist. Said therapist denied saying anything like that, said they did the standard questions but she in fact does not believe there is any abuse going on. In fact, believes WH is an engaged and active parent - much more so than XW.
So now what? XW clearly made up this lie for some reason. I am clueless as to why. I am very worried. I have sole custody of my 13 yo son, but his father doesn't play around and is not happy about my WH's affair which my son disclosed to him. If the XW is starting to make allegations and waves, if CPS starts an investigation, then I could potentially lose my son. His father has no leg to stand on at this moment, but that would give him the ammunition needed to try to take him. I cannot have that.
I don't like dealing with crazy. WH and I are almost done anyways, and this, tops the cake.
WH was supposed to confront XW with the lie but "hasn't had time"...he'll try today.
Has anyone else dealt with this? I am breaking under all this strain.
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Send a letter to the therapist, cc'ing XW that these are the allegations that have been made about your son's environment, and that you expect a response as to why the breach of confidentiality by discussing your son's treatment and situation with a non-related party.
Or, better yet, invite the therapist to write the letter, cc'ing the XW that her allegations of therapeutic breach of confidentiality will not be tolerated and met with the full consequences of the law for misleading statements. That way you have a paper trail of the lie, and the therapist's threat of legal consequences on the XW so that any rumor your XH attempts to act on will be completely neutralized.
I'm not a lawyer, but something along these lines would be something I'd explore in a similar situation.
(I used to work in a therapeutic setting where a confidentiality form was required to be completed by visitors, and I very nearly used it in a situation where there was clearly a breach of that confidentiality agreement)
So...XW seems to be trying to start something. Problem is I do have complete control over my son and he lives in the house XW is saying she has been told is emotionally abusive to her son.
Does that make sense?
Basically I have my WH's crazy XW making abuse allegations about her son while he is in our custody. We just don't know the extent she is taking the allegations, if she's reporting them, or just testing the water by saying them to us.
She's crazy, bottom line. I just can't let my son be affected by WHXW's craziness.
[This message edited by FightingChance at 9:42 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday)]
Since you stated - You "are almost done" with this marrige to WH....
Why delay leaving/divorcing WH; and taking any chance of putting your relationship/custody of your OWN SON at risk by delaying this divorce from WH any longer?
If you're DONE with this marriage to WH -- then be done! Leave, file for a divorce and move on with your life, with your own son.
WHY risk anything so valuable to you (custody of your son)- for this failed marriage
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.
Starting a paper trail is the best way to deal with this...IMHO.