On top of that, his AP now works in the same city as me, in a building close by. I ran into her once and confronted her. Last week, she was in my very building and came within inches of me as I was walking through the skyway.
Even without these constant reminders, I think of the affair every day. My H says he never thinks of it.
Has anyone else had these type of situations? Is it good that he doesn't think of it? How do I stop thinking of it? How are the rest of you all doing at 2+ years. This website literally lifted me up in my darkest days. I hope to do that for others, but still feel too wrung out to do it. Advice or thoughts?
"Forgive: sounds good. Forget: I don't think I could. They say, 'Time heals everything' but I'm still waiting."
I'm not sure about my W's thoughts. I know she's been working on her issues since D-Day, and that's what I've cared about.
Although not a frequent poster I come here several times a week and read. Helps to keep me sane.
[This message edited by momdaughterwife at 8:38 AM, July 4th (Thursday)]
It is such a strange dynamic. Our marriage is so much better than it was before his A but the knowledge of his betrayal still hurts me daily. I wish I was a less emotional person and could just put it in a box as something that happened an move on. But beleive me, I am grateful not to still feel the pain that was there in the beginning. That was unbearable!
I wouldn't wish this on anyone but it is comforting to know that I am not the only one who still thinks about it daily even though years have passed.