Topic: I'm just venting.
Member # 33698
| Posted: 10:51 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013|
I can't take listening to any more about how awesome the new family is and how much fun they have over there. XWH is an emotionally unavailable and selfish man who is buying their love with toys and outings. I know that my kids will probably realize that somewhere down the road, but right now, it's killing me to smile and repeatedly say, "That's nice" when I want to say, "I'm so glad that the homewreckers are spoiling you with crap that you don't need and are putting on a great show of how fun and sparkly they are. It's all just a facade-- the only people they care about are themselves."
I can't believe how much shit we have to eat. That I am referred to as the BS seems very fitting these days.
Big wedding this weekend! I'll be sure to post about it because I'll have to hear about how nice it was, how pretty the OW looked in her dress, how they all did these super fun and awesome things blah blah blah...
[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 10:52 AM, July 5th (Friday)]
BS (Me) 39
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3045 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 33226
| Posted: 11:06 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013|
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 19315 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-)
Member # 37215
| Posted: 11:25 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013|
Ugh. (((((tryingagain74))))) I know it is so hard to be patient but your children will realize the truth one day. Shit sandwiches are a bitch to eat. Sending you hugs and support!
Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 14
"...he hasn't ruined YOUR life or the lives of your kids - he's ruined HIS OWN life." anewday78
Posts: 1459 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 32554
| Posted: 12:45 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013|
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED YOU, YOU SON OF A BITCH!
Posts: 7331 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 28622
| Posted: 12:59 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013|
ugh, I cannot imagine the train wreck of a wedding.
I am so sorry you are hearing all about the skittle farting unicorn happiness. It is a facade and it will not last.
You are a good mom with the "that's nice" comments. I called the homewrecker a whore out loud and then had to define the word when asked what that was...
If you hear how pretty she looked in her dress, just remember - you can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig. (my apologies to all pigs who are offended at being compared to OWs)
Hang in there trying, and post often.
Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
Posts: 4766 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 18334
| Posted: 3:35 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013|
Just think, they are getting married and real life will set in and the party is over. The kids are only going to be bought and fooled for so long.
My kids caught on real quick and realized they could use him to get whatever they wanted.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
Posts: 4282 | Registered: Feb 2008
Member # 34697
| Posted: 8:31 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
Thinking about you and the kids today.
Posts: 3608 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 35229
| Posted: 9:19 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
She is getting the husband she deserves.
Your kids deserve so much better.
Its so hard watching your kids get dragged into these train wrecks.
Deep breaths honey. We all gag on this shit sandwich sometimes.
“If things start happening, don't worry, don't stew, just go right along and you'll start happening too.” -Dr Seuss
Posts: 3566 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 34146
| Posted: 4:35 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
Your kids will ultimately see what they are (and you probably don't have long to wait, once the sparkles wear off, poor kids.) And they will remember how terrific you were through the thing. Time passes quickly; you'll be to detachment before you know it.
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
Posts: 2795 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 30853
| Posted: 9:56 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so, so sorry. This is just awful for you and your kids.
I hope I can help by reminding you of a helpful story that you recently told me. In a recent post you told me about your oldest brother who left his wife and married the OW. He later said he knew it was a huge mistake by the time they left for the honeymoon, but he hung on for years to avoid the "I told you so" and to try to prove to the world that this wasn't the stupid, destructive decision everyone knew it was.
Your ex is doing the same thing. He will try his very best to make this horrid choice sparkle for as long as he can. From your otherposts it's easy to see that your ex is a big pompous ass. Those kinds of people rarely admit they are wrong.
The way he treats the kids - all fluff no substance - that's how he will treat her too. Your kids will see. This will wear thin soon. You are the genuine substance in their lives that will last forever. Fluff fades.
And, as far as looking at pictures of the wedding, you're a better person than me. I wouldn't do it. We eat enough shit. I would draw the line at someone trying to shove that turd down my throat. Come up with a nice excuse that won't hurt the kids and avoid that mess like the plague.
Everyone here is behind you. Come here to vent as much as you need.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
Posts: 2199 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 3703
| Posted: 5:44 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013|
I hope I can help by reminding you of a helpful story that you recently told me. In a recent post you told me about your oldest brother who left his wife and married the OW. He later said he knew it was a huge mistake by the time they left for the honeymoon, but he hung on for years to avoid the "I told you so" and to try to prove to the world that this wasn't the stupid, destructive decision everyone knew it was. AMEN SUCKSTOBEME!
Ugh I didn't realize the wedding was THIS weekend. Ew. How are you doing?
Me: BW - 37/ Him: WH - 50 (sociopath/serial cheater)
D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
It's over. Nobody, and I mean nobody, should have to live this kind of fucked up life.
Posts: 2181 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
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