I'm no attorney or financial planner or anyone qualified to give you advice here, but I really think it's okay you don't have a job yet.. I would keep some sort of record that you have been applying. You might be given child support based on your income potential, so you really do want a job, but if you've been a stay at home mom and doing part-time work for a long time, I think that's what a lot of spousal support is for, to give you some help while you get back up there..
Once you separate you can ask for "family support" which is not SS or CS. I don't know how it's classified for tax purposes. What it does, though, is send some cash your way from your STBX while the divorce is underway. When the divorce is in the final stage SS & CS may start happening. Make sure your petition for D asks for family support. AND exclusive use of the family home.
You definitely need to keep track of what you're doing to find work. Even if you don't have a job, the state will assume you are capable of making minimum wage 40-hours a week. So don't expect to be a SAHM mom any longer. And don't expect SS to last long enough, or be in a large enough amount, to tide you over while you finish out a degree or certificate.
[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 9:53 PM, July 5th (Friday)]
I'm getting out of here.
[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 3:07 PM, July 6th (Saturday)]
I'm sorry if it all became confusing. I started this thread because I thought it was a different topic. I also wanted to get advice ASAP since he was coming home and the other thread was a vent and not really asking for advice. I think that is where a connection is being missed. The vent thread ran into the second day.
[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 3:44 PM, July 6th (Saturday)]