Is it ok to have old flames and exs as
a friend? Guess it depends on how much trust is there? however I am on the other end of it right now, I am fairly sure her or him or both don't think her being friends with me is ok, or perhaps she is just showing him exactly how over me she is. when I do get involved with someone again I wouldn't stand in anyones way in fact , I would encourage whomever to keep in touch with their Ex , because I know how it is, to be the Ex.
Does that make you comfortable or uncomfortable?
I guess it might make me feel uncomfortable if I was a little unsure about the depth of their relationship? I hope whenever I am healed enough and do fall in love again that I will be completely comfortable with whomever she wanted to be friends with?
Do any of you think there is a social expectation for people to stay friends with exs?
I think being friends with an Ex sounds great in theory and is something you see in the movies , however I guess when you think about it, they are "exes" for a reason, heh So is there a social expectation , based on how often you see it played out in the movies and with "famous" people , I suppose there I somewhat an expectation, unreal as it may be.
Do you think that things were the same way with our parents generation?
I think for my parents generation , once a relationship was over , that was that, unless kids were involved people went their separate ways.
Do you think it has anything to do with divorce rates being higher? blended family's etc?
I guess having "friends" old flames and the such , surely must effect the divorce rate, I guess when you really love someone , you never stop, 1 year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now so down the road if someone is married with 20 kids and they run into an Ex, chances are , if there are some unresolved feelings there , who knows what might happen ?
Yep, now that I am about to have my very own, first ever Ex! I can't ever see how it would not be weird, esp if I was in a relationship, I would think I would feel very protective of my new love, but then again that's just how I roll.
heh I dunno , I guess I am just in the WTF is going stage of things because honestly , whenever I do get involved again , I really really wont care one bit who they talk to, honestly lol I am so broken in a billion pieces , I wont ever feel pain ever again so , I am not afraid of anything :)