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mysticpenguin
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Should you always attend a funeral with your SO even if you did not know the person who is deceased?

[This message edited by mysticpenguin at 10:15 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would go.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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hemademesingle
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think that it is totally appropriate for you to attend with your husband, offering him support, it's hard losing someone from your "age bracket", makes one examine there own mortality

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mysticpenguin
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks ladies!

[This message edited by mysticpenguin at 10:16 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]


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MoreThanMe
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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Someone once told me- "if you are thinking whether or not you should go to a funeral-you should go."


Brevity, typos & misspellings provided by my ipad and fatigue.
It's been 4 years, SA husband sober. We're doing okay. Today.

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think you should worry about others will think. And one of my pet peeves is someone telling you how you will feel. You get to decide that. If you're not worried about feeling awkward, your H shouldn't be.

I don't think it's ever wrong to be there as a support for your partner.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband went to a funeral with me today and neither one of us knew the deceased!! She was the wife of a guy who delivers to the company I work for (so I know HIM). I just felt like I should pay my respects for HIM. And hubby volunteered to go with me and we were both glad we went. Go. :)


Me BS 55, WS 55
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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Based on what you said he said, I think even more strongly that you should go.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9461 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My friend's father passed away last week...and my fiance came to the funeral home with me, even though he never met the deceased, and doesn't know my friend that well.

I told him he didn't have to come, and he said "YOU knew him, and you know her, and you are hurting, and I want to support you."

I was happy he came. I appreciated his support.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Am I the only cynical person who thinks maybe there's an underhanded reason why he doesn't want you to attend with him--like maybe he'd like to get up to something with some other grade-school friend?


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^Nope.

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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would look at it as an opportunity to meet some of the people from that "other circle" with your H.....
It is never out of line to extend sympathies to others when they have suffered a loss....I know I would want my other half with me.....sorry for his loss....HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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