Being very, very careful
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
Sometimes they're having more than one affair at a time.
I was handed the "We're just friends" line many times.
Draw your line in the sand and 180 him. Start gathering evidence and documenting.
ETA: I just saw your D-Day was so recent. Is he remorseful or does he insist nothing was going on then?
Have you read about the 180 in the Healing Library?
[This message edited by travels at 7:40 AM, July 6th (Saturday)]
I would give him a dose of reality. He wants the single life? Fine, then he may have the single life, but not as YOUR husband. If he wants cute little pics texted from a married ho, fine, but then he needs to find other accommodations, i.e., NOT in your bed.
I would 180 him, I would speak to an attorney. I would stop cooking and cleaning for him, stop doing his laundry, banish him to the couch (or better yet, his car), and I would set fire to some of his favorite stuff, preferably someting A-related, like maybe his phone for starters!
Stand up for yourself and make it perfectly clear that you will no longer accept a lying cheater as a husband. Be strong, my dear. You can do this! Take care.
I don't have any advice because I am dealing with the same thing and don't know what to do but I am taking it day by day and praying for the best. Take care of yourself and your kids!
That's disrespectful to you! It also worries me and I'm sorry for your suspicions.
But I'm also glad you're thinking and not just accepting his quick answers, it sounds like. That may bode well, for you to be on your toes.
I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry for the misuse of cell phones.
I experienced jealousy in visiting a relative recently, because she and the BF put their phones together when they don't use them, just out in the room like I do and since OW became a reality, STBX is very bizarre with his phone, thinking he is covert.
I hope your WH will cut it out.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess