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User Topic: Making a tough choice
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Baxter, thank you for your help on SI. I can think of many newly arrived waywards who were set straight in their priorities after a gentle nudge from you. You have a very real gift for this.

I do hope you don't disappear, but I can understand why stepping down may make sense for you.

Be well.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
EmotionalFool
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks BaxterBFF.

Initially I kept coming back bcz your posts comforted me. If it only have been 2x4s, I doubt I would keep coming back. Thanks.


WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

Posts: 334 | Registered: Nov 2012
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Baxter...

I didn't even see this and here I am yaking it up with you in the Guide forum tonight

Thank you so very much for everything you've given to us, the site and all the members. You are such a gentle and wise soul. I know your words have reached many and have helped pave their way towards their own healing.

I hope you know how much MH and I truly appreciate you!! We also respect and understand your decision to take a break. Always know that SI is your home away from home. Please thank your lovely wife for all her patience while you took your Guide role to heart

Thank you again!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196517 | Registered: May 2002
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wait...he didn't tell the boss first? C'mon Baxter, you know the first rule of being a Guide is never surprise the Mods


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3754 | Registered: Dec 2011
booger bear
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Member # 26584
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwww ... Sad to see you go ....

Good luck and I wish you and GG all the best !!!!! Hugs to Baxter .....


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18725 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here, but not there ...
DixieD
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BaxterBFF, I've appreciated reading your thoughtful and educational threads and helping me understand such a thing as a one-sided EA. All the best to you and GerryGirl.


Growing forward

Posts: 1762 | Registered: Sep 2011
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone.

This definately has been a home away from home for me, especially with the travling schedule and all.

I'd miss it too much if I went cold turkey. Too many wonderful people here to just up and leave.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6097 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred...

We mods and guides knew in advance...I just happened to miss this thread yesterday


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196517 | Registered: May 2002
openedupmyeyes
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Member # 27871
Happy  Posted: 7:00 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nothing to add that hadn't been said. Thank you for all that you have done. See you on the threads.


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 760 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally understand your choice and I am glad that you will still be here. Your wisdom in the forums is much appreciated.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51518 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've done a great job, Baxter. Thanks for giving so much of yourself to help this community.


Machiavellian idiot savant

Posts: 6739 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all you have done for SI and the members here, Baxter!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9404 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for giving so much to SI's community, BaxtersBFF. You gave everyone here a gift by Guiding us when we needed support, especially in the Wayward Forum. Thank you!!!


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
"Not my monkeys. Not my circus." ~Polish proverb (<~~~ as a codependent person, this comes in handy sometimes!)

Posts: 3882 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing I've noticed about your posts since I have joined this site is continued growth, Baxter's. Growth to the point where you were/are also able to help guide others in so many ways. That's been valuable to witness, and I can imagine how helpful that growth has been to yourself, your wife, and your kids. I'll miss seeing you as a guide, but I am glad you are sticking around.

Oh yeah, and thanks for helping stick up for the awesome band Rush in one of the F&G music forums several months back. You'll always have a close place in my heart for that alone!

Cheers, dude.


Posts: 6252 | Registered: Dec 2010
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

awesome band Rush


What the WHAT?!?!

***sitting on hands... biting tongue...***


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16435 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

***stabs Geddy Lee in the throat with a shrimp fork***


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6306 | Registered: Jan 2011
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are a wise and compassionate soul. I thank you for all the (hopefully) continued wisdom...


Me-BS-60-Can't tell you how painful it was to change this number!
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3281 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Teach8
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for everything you have done for si. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself...you have helped me in a million ways and you don't even know it.


Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R

Posts: 492 | Registered: Aug 2012
UR_AN_IDIOT
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Member # 18764
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Baxter I just saw this. Thank you for all you have done here. Your voice here has been so strong and effective all while being patient and kind.

I am glad you will still be around. All the best to you and your beautiful family.

UR


Me:BW 48
FWH: 50

Married 25 years
DD 23 DS 21
Reconciled


Posts: 12696 | Registered: Mar 2008
MissesJai
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Member # 24849
Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just seeing this as well. Baxter, you rock. Your contributions are invaluable. This isn't goodbye, this is until next time.


FWW - 40
I'm big on personal responsibility. Own your shit. ALL OF IT.

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