A little background: My WH had an A with his office manager. D-day was 9 months ago. We are trying to R and have taken several steps back, especially in the beginning, but I believe we are finally moving forward.
My WH was transferred to a different location right before D-Day and OW works at headquarters. She is the office manager for both locations, so WH has to talk "business" with her everyday. While he was still in his fog, their talk wasn't just about business.
Fast forward, my WH finally got his head out of his ass and I feel we have made some significant progress and can see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is dim, but I can see it. My issue is that since he is being transparent, I know when he talks to her and what they talk about. In one hand, I am grateful that he is being transparent and letting me know things and see his phone, etc, but on the other had, I know that he still talks to her even though it is only about business. So this is my double edge sword. Some days I handle it better than others, and this is one day where I'm not!
If anyone has experienced this, I would love to hear how you handle this. Me: BS 50
Him: WH 51
D - 26; S - 23; S - 20
Married 31years, together 34
D-Day 1 - April 1, 2012
D-Day 2 - October 5, 2012
D-Day 3 - August 15, 2014
99.9% we are getting a divorce.