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User Topic: Not sure what to do - Advice
UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My FWSO has been estranged from his son for over a year - lots of reasons that stem from his X.

His DS married an abuser, both physical & emotional. She caused him physical damage before the wedding last year, then proceeded to alienate him from all his friends & family. He talks to none of his family, none of his friends,

Well we have just learned that his wife was arrested for domestic assault on him. I have BTDT with my exH when I was almost the same age, 23. I feel for him and want to try to reach out to him, screw the drama from before. MY FWSO is struggling with this, he was so hurt by what came before he is afraid to open that door. I am worried it may bring XDBC back into proximity to us.

I just have no idea what is right.


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 980 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
hardtimesinlife
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate family estrangements and believe that sometimes life presents opportunities for us to heal them.

Did you have a relationship with him before he stopped talking to your fwso? If so, I say make mild contact and then let him come to you if he chooses. JMO

[This message edited by hardtimesinlife at 3:38 PM, July 12th (Friday)]


Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Florida
UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was actually the only one who had a "normal" relationship with
him. He was one of the few who knew about his fathers infidelity with his mother.


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 980 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
1Faith
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Follow your heart. He is your SO child. He needs love and support. Reach out to him and let him know you are there for him. The past is the past. Move forward and offer him love and acceptance.

Good luck.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Faith - that is my take


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 980 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
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