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User Topic: Not where I wanted to be but here I am...
BetrayedinMN
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seems like forever since I have been on here and it probably has. Long story short...10/10/10 found out about affair with co-worker. Initially I believed him when he said it was emotional not physical. We entered MC right away but had a lot of difficulty in R. Last September I discovered he was still contacting/talking/texting her every day...all day long. October I got served with papers and divorce was final end of April.

Since that time, it's been difficult. The night before he moved out, he forced himself on me...he came back the day he moved out and beat on my door. He is constantly insulting me, threatening me..it's so hard. We share the kids 50/50. Wish I had never agreed to it.

Anyway, I've been isolating myself so I thought I would come back here and give it a try...get support and offer support.

Me 43
XH 42
Dday #1 (EA) 2008
Dday #2 (EA) 2010
DDay #3 (EA) 9-2-12
3 kids (17, 12 and 10)

Was served divorce papers on 10/30/12
Divorced 4/30/13


Me - 43
XH 42 (A's with co-workers)
Dday #1 (EA) 2008
Dday #2 (EA) 2010
DDay #3 (EA) 9-2-12

Was served divorce papers on 10/30/12
D final 4/30/13


Posts: 240 | Registered: Sep 2008
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome back. You have found a great pleace. I am sorry he is being such a big fat jerk to you.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2639 | Registered: Jan 2010
Elaine2012
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Member # 36099
Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((BetrayedinMN))). I just want you to know you've been heard. SI has been a life saver for me you will get the support you need. Just post as often as you need to. I'm sorry you've had to deal with a terrible situation.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry you're here, but we're a great bunch.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9509 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
BetrayedinMN
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Member # 20970
Default  Posted: 6:25 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. Glad to be back


Me - 43
XH 42 (A's with co-workers)
Dday #1 (EA) 2008
Dday #2 (EA) 2010
DDay #3 (EA) 9-2-12

Was served divorce papers on 10/30/12
D final 4/30/13


Posts: 240 | Registered: Sep 2008
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you are here but given the circumstances I think this is the most AWESEOME place you can find to share. Stay strong!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Betrayed)))

Welcome back. What do you mean that he forced himself on you? Remember that you can call the police. It may be helpful for you to call a domestic violence hotline so you know what your options are. There is absolutely no need for you to subject yourself to any abuse or intimidation from him!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3315 | Registered: Dec 2011
tesla
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((BetrayedinMN)))

What phmh said. If there are steps you can take to alleviate your fear and anxiety around him, please do. If that means calling the cops or a domestic violence hotline, please do. That fucker should be leaving you the fuck alone.

Keep posting.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4610 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
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