If not, especially at his age, it's something going wrong either physically or emotionally. Given the A and his boundary issues, I bet it's emotional, but both should be checked out.
I'm with atsenaotie. One of my requirements for R was that my W had to initiate se a lot more often than she had previously done. Why not make one of your requirements that he cuddle after sex? Is he in IC? If so, one of your reqs coul be that he resolve this issue in IC.
WRT embarrassment, I'm right there with ya. I just keep telling myself this site is anonymous. (I ignore the fact that I've attended g2gs.... ) Besides, SI is a great place to get lots of sexual info from a very wide range of people without crossing boundaries. We've got immense experience, and we're willing to share....
Communication out of the bedroom has helped a lot. As has testosterone cream.
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[This message edited by soveryalone1 at 7:42 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)]
When he began to go to SA meetings, he quit m...st... all together.
Now he lasts longer, has control, and feels more intimacy than he has ever before in his life.
All this to say that m....n is not always the cure, it can become part of the problem.
Hurt, are you guys in counselling, and will he talk about it with you?