The funny thing is, the biggest red flag to me was that he told you he's a "great guy". Guys who say that are usually players in my book.
This. My fabulousness will be apparent to anyone within short order. I don't need to tell them that I am fabulous. Uh... unless I'm really not and just want them to think I am and buy into my ruse.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
But, regardless of how it came to be, this guy is drama, and I would stay away from that if it were me. It's simply not worth the risk, esp for a party guy I've hooked up with once. There are too many other options to take that bet under the circumstances. Especially so close to home. Just my VHO.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
I have a feeling that he is doing things with the ex wife - trying to get back with her - and lying to his friends to sort of "save face" maybe. And of course, if he's a shit, he'll paint her out to be "crazy".
But won't he look like the fool if they reconcile. He will look like one, and SHE will be one... SHEESH