I've dated a few people since I separated 7 years ago. I have always told early in the process about my A. But I'm not sure I'm doing it for the right reasons and I think I might be telling too early.
I know the FBS on here will probably think nothing can be TOO early, but the process goes like this - Meet guy, things are going well, well enough that I start having the internal "crap I'm going to have to tell this guy about one of the worst things I've ever done". Automatically I start feeling less than. And I think when I tell them I suddenly feel unworthy.
This leads to me feeling completely unbalanced in the relationship. I mean, let's face it, THEY haven't told me the shittiest things they've done in their life.
Anyhow, I'm rethinking how soon I tell.
I don't know what to do about the whole guilt, feeling less than part. In general I feel good about myself, but having to admit and kind of relive all that past stuff brings me down all over again.
Posting here, because it seems more like a Wayward issue than a NB one.
To clarify, I've never had a guy stop seeing me after he finds out about the A. So that's not the reason why I want to hold off on telling. I guess it's more I want to trust them before I tell. Sigh. Does that make any sense to anyone?