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User Topic: Well I'm single again...
hurtbs
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Concerned  Posted: 5:52 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was dating a wonderful man for about a year. I've been single now for almost 20 days. We broke up because I moved 1500 miles away and neither of us wanted to do teh Long Distance thing.
As much as it sucks and I hurt, it's nothing compared to my divorce. I don't know if it's just difference of not having intertwined lives (a 1 year relationship is different than unwinding a 8 year marriage) or just that I have better tools and skills in healing and directing my hurt. It's probably also a little easier because there isn't an element of rejection - we broke up because we physically weren't in the same place.
Still, it sucks.

But today, a cute guy carried a box for me (offered without my even asking), so I guess I still have it a bit...


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
juliette
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((hurtbs))))) so sorry for this.


Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years


Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.


Posts: 11472 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: ontario
burnt_toast
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hurtbs)))

I'm sorry you are going through this.

I juste left my SO of almost 5 years. Abandonment and betrayal are two very deep wounds that are not present this time. And yes, I beleive you do have more tools than you had initially.


It is what it is.

Posts: 4699 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Quelque part
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hurtbs)))

I'm so sorry. Sending you strength and hope the coming weeks bring happiness.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry things didn't work out for you two, hurtbs. ((((hugs))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Aug 2011
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's really okay. I'm sad, but it's not that devastated, my whole world is shattered feeling. I feel pretty hopeful about the future....

What really sucks, though, is that I have mono so I can't take care of myself y eating right and exercising (just ate normally today for the first time, no gym), can't do things that are fun as a distraction, can't play with friends... that is kind of sucky... but I feel like I'll be okay.

Doing NC for right now. It's been 19 days since we last spoke, and 17 days since last contact. I told him I needed to do NC for a while to move forward. I can't be "friends" with him, but talking to him wont' help. I fewer urges to text or call about things (you know, inside jokes)... but sometimes I still go to grab the phone... I just text a girlfriend or send an email.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
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