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User Topic: Well I'm single again...
hurtbs
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Concerned  Posted: 5:52 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was dating a wonderful man for about a year. I've been single now for almost 20 days. We broke up because I moved 1500 miles away and neither of us wanted to do teh Long Distance thing.
As much as it sucks and I hurt, it's nothing compared to my divorce. I don't know if it's just difference of not having intertwined lives (a 1 year relationship is different than unwinding a 8 year marriage) or just that I have better tools and skills in healing and directing my hurt. It's probably also a little easier because there isn't an element of rejection - we broke up because we physically weren't in the same place.
Still, it sucks.

But today, a cute guy carried a box for me (offered without my even asking), so I guess I still have it a bit...


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays - 1 was too many
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15255 | Registered: Jun 2006
juliette
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((hurtbs))))) so sorry for this.


Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years


Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.


Posts: 11472 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: ontario
burnt_toast
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hurtbs)))

I'm sorry you are going through this.

I juste left my SO of almost 5 years. Abandonment and betrayal are two very deep wounds that are not present this time. And yes, I beleive you do have more tools than you had initially.


It is what it is.

Posts: 4699 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Quelque part
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hurtbs)))

I'm so sorry. Sending you strength and hope the coming weeks bring happiness.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry things didn't work out for you two, hurtbs. ((((hugs))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24442 | Registered: Aug 2011
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's really okay. I'm sad, but it's not that devastated, my whole world is shattered feeling. I feel pretty hopeful about the future....

What really sucks, though, is that I have mono so I can't take care of myself y eating right and exercising (just ate normally today for the first time, no gym), can't do things that are fun as a distraction, can't play with friends... that is kind of sucky... but I feel like I'll be okay.

Doing NC for right now. It's been 19 days since we last spoke, and 17 days since last contact. I told him I needed to do NC for a while to move forward. I can't be "friends" with him, but talking to him wont' help. I fewer urges to text or call about things (you know, inside jokes)... but sometimes I still go to grab the phone... I just text a girlfriend or send an email.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays - 1 was too many
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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