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User Topic: Poll: What are your red flags?
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My daughter hates my texts because they are all in complete sentences and spelled correctly.


I'm not a model case on choosing partners up to now it seems but here it goes :

Messed up relationship with FOO or on the contrary, badly idealizing or dependent on his family;
Always «agrees» with me (that always backfires, even if it takes years);
Not taking responsibility for being unhappy (or for anything else);
Jokes that make me unconfortable (discounting women, normalizing violence or otherwise unacceptable behavior);
Filthy appartment/house
Spending pattern obviously not in line with situation/position/income level - both ways;
Poor impulse control, e.g. not being able to follow through multiple diet/exercise/budget plans, reckless driving/behavior, etc.;
Changes the way he acts and «is» depending with who he is;
Not cultivating any interests of his own outside of work/family/couple time;
Repeatedly breaks promises;
Must have a win/lose outcome to arguments with me or any other person to feel satisfied;
Lack of empathy and lack of curiosity towards others in general.

Big list... Am I a hopeless case or what?

Also, butterflies are not a red flag, but would prompt me to question myself what it is in me that the person triggers. It could lead to interesting answers.

[This message edited by burnt_toast at 10:37 PM, July 20th (Saturday)]

It is what it is.

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