* Computer class training notes from the 80's
* Some kind of odd poker/bingo cards or something, w/ chips
* A handwritten record of thousands, and I mean THOUSANDS, of bingo games played, hands dealt, how it progressed, who won, all time high scores or whatever
* Love letter from a girlfriend complete with lots of pics of them having various kinds of sex, and also some nekkid ones of him holding his cat on his dick (no wonder that cat preferred me to him when I came along)
* What appears to be a small vial of cocaine
Okay, WTF do I do with this vial? Throw it in the trash and pray no one ever finds it?
ETA: It's not bingo games that are recorded, it's whatever this odd card game is that seems like it could be poker, but it's played on big cards like bingo cards. I dunno WTF it is.
Oh, and seeing those naked & sex pictures did absolutely nothing to me. I did not trigger, my heart didn't even skip a beat.
[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 9:13 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]
I don't have any idea what you'd do with it.
Can you just burn down that damn garage?
I'm serious about this. If you want to protect your kids from this kind of thing during visitations, it's a good idea to start getting the police involved in it now.
I'm so sorry that garage is so horrific.
Won't I get arrested for this?
OR - I would get the whole lot taken out and sent to the dump rather than go through it myself. You have all of your important stuff, short of finding a dead body with his DNA on it there's nothing useful for you in there.
There is not really any reason for you to go through it all yourself.
Can you ask your L what you should do? I don't know what the laws are but are there amounts are chargeable?
It would be difficult to prove that it is his, notwithstanding it is his 'stuff'.
I just worry there's going to be even more stuff like this and at some point someone's going to ask, "Did you ever call the police?" and you'll have to say no and somehow hurt your own (and the kids') interests.
You need to start wearing rubber gloves when you go through his crap.
Glad you didn't trigger. Life is good.
You need to start wearing rubber gloves when you go through his crap
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Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.
There's no reason for our stuff to be mixed together. I don't want to throw out my stuff.
Sending you clean garage mojo...
My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.
Do you have a GAL? I wonder if you should be saving some of this stuff for evidence. It might help to get him supervised visitation.
I'd call my attorney. Look, if it is coke, I wouldn't want to touch another fucking thing in there. And I would lean heavily toward letting the forensics unit clean the place out.
I picked up the vial to look at it. So my fingerprints are on it now.
I occasionally have to turn in drugs and paraphernalia to the police that I've confiscated from students and I've always had to handle it before I turned it over. Contact your attorney first but I think the police understand that most drug users don't call them over to turn in their own stash. It might be valuable to have documentation of the crap you find in his belongings, especially when it crosses the line between creepy and illegal.
[This message edited by h0peless at 11:16 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]
I'm sorry, to me this is more disturbing than the possible drugs in some ways. These need to be brought to your lawyer. Between this and the other things you have found, I would fight tooth and nail to have all his visits with the kids supervised...if you haven't already.
❣Your soulmate is the person who helps grow your soul into a better being rather than tearing it down❣
I was so scared to touch anything but I did. I took them. I put them in a box and brought them to my attorney. He said he didn't want them! Then he made this funny face like why did I take them. I asked if I should give them to the police to dispose of and he advised against that saying that I really don't want the cops to know I have needles in my possession!
I told him I thought it would be useful in court! Ha. He said ohh, okay hold on to them but be careful! So, they're in a box in the back of a closet waiting to show to a judge.
If it were me, I would wipe my fingerprints off the vial, flush any powder in it, and throw the vial away. I would not involve the police as they tend to think of these things as domestic problems and might think you are trying to frame your WS. JMHO.
DON'T FLUSH IT! That crap is bad for water and not all sewer systems effectively clean it meaning it will be released back into open water somewhere. (I have worked in that industry for many years so it is something I know a few things about... :-))
Now, the naked and sex pictures are DEFINITELY something you can use against him to request supervised visitation so keep those!!
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare