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User Topic: My Coco crossed the Bridge last night
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How wonderful that you found each other.

I know you miss her, but I 100% believe you did best by her.

"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for you.

You were NO DOUBT the best thing that ever happened to sweet Coco. You made her life safe, loving and peaceful.

I have had to make this same difficult decision in my life. And I have gone through the same replays in my mind for days and weeks after. It's so difficult.

The only thing that makes it better is time.

I do believe that our pets go on to heaven. I would like to share a story with you. This brought me so much comfort after I had to make this same decision for one of my dogs. I hope you find comfort in this story too.

In November of 2000 I had to put my dog to sleep. She was an American Cocker Spaniel named Molly. I had her since she was 8 weeks old. She was almost 16 when I made that difficult decision. She was suffering. She had cancer as well as many other health problems.

My grandfather died in May of 2001.

My husband (ex-now) was cheating at the time. So this was a very, very difficult time in my life.

Prior to my grandfather passing away, he was staying at a care facility. My youngest sister lived a short distance from this facility. She and her daughter would go and see my grandpa on a regular basis prior to his death. My niece at the time was about 2.

My niece and my grandfather had a close relationship. And she was too young to understand death & dying, etc.

After my grandfather passed away, my sister did not tell my niece. (again, too young to understand) she also was not told about Molly.

My sister began hearing my niece talking in her room at night. One night she went in and my niece was yelling. Not upset yelling, just loud talking/yelling. My sister asked her what was going on. My niece said, "Molly is here and she keeps jumping on my bed!" My sister gently continued the questioning and asked, "How did Molly get here?" And my niece said, "Grandpa Pete brings her to play with me." my sister continued with, "Where is Grandpa Pete?" and my niece pointed at the window and said, "Right there!"

I believe my dogs who have passed are with my grandfather. And for whatever reason, my niece could see them together. When my sister told me that story, it brought me such peace. Molly used to love to jump on beds. But she hadn't been able to do that is such a long time due to her health problems. And knowing that she (and now other dogs) are with my grandfather) waiting for me is so reassuring.

I hope you too find the peace you so deserve for loving so unselfishly.

It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)

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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


First, huge hugs. My pets are my children, as I don't have any human ones. They have seen me through the gutting of infidelity, and gave me a reason to get up when I didn't feel like I could. Your little precious Coco did the same for you.

I believe God sends special pets to some of us because we can give them what they need, and vice-versa. You and Coco had that special gift from God.

I have to say that your tribute to Coco was one of the most beautiful I've ever read. Bless you for showing her kindness and love that she had never known. Bless her for bringing you joy and love when you needed it most.

And while it is the hardest thing you've had to do, bless you for ending her pain, even though you knew it would begin your own.

Huge hugs to you.

"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss. Never question that she knew you loved her. I put my 7 month old German Shepherd pup to sleep in 2007 (hip/elbow dysplasia). One quote that I've thought of often is:

'I let you go, not because I didn't love you, but because I loved you too much to make you stay.'

I hope it brings you a bit of comfort. You gave her the greatest gift - one of love and no more pain.


[This message edited by GrievingMommy at 11:20 PM, July 20th (Saturday)]

Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11

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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss, reading it, and the responses to your post have brought me to tears. I've had to make that journey several times and it is heartbreaking every single time.

I read a short story by Patty Hansen in chicken soup for the soul 2, talking about her dog Suki...A Best Friend for All Reasons. The last paragraph is very poignant: "People say that whe we die we are met on the other side by someone we know and love. I know who will be waiting for me...a little, round, black and white dog with an old face and a stubby tail that never stops wagging with joy at seeing her best friend again." Hugs to you during this time.

Me: BS-42
Hubby: FWS-42
OW: former friend of mine
EA from ? to 3-15-12
3 DD, 1 DS
Time heals all wounds-I do not agree.

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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, soverybetrayed. Coco knew she was loved. And you were equally loved by her.


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