WH texted me earlier that he noticed I wasn't feeling so well lately and wasn't communicating with him much. We are still S and did one counseling session so far. He was seeing OW up until about 9 days ago.
He said "I hate to be the reason you don't feel well and I'd rather you were healthy even if that means we don't get back together."
Have no idea about the sincerity of that.
Then he added, "Guilt and obligation are what kept me coming back to you all those times. That's why I was never able to let you go" (he didn't really "come back" because he was seeing OW non-stop all that time)
I said, "Guilt and Obligation?? Don't need it, I'm fine on my own without you."
Then he backpeddled and said "love kept me coming back too."
1. Ok, he wasn't really "Back" if he was still seeing OW.
2. Guilt and obligation (and love he says now) should have kept his dick in his pants. He really means that "guilt and obligation kept me coming back and pretending to be faithful to you" How was he possibly feeling any guilt, obligation or love while he was still screwing OW??
3. He has an effed up idea that he's not hurting anyone as long as they don't know what he's doing.
(I'm sure I'm missing a bunch more here)
He's so beyond getting it, or getting literally anything. I'm questioning his ability to even add 2 + 2.