Thanks for all the support everyone, and thanks for asking Undefinabl.
I haven't heard from my son, neither has his sisters. He is obviously very hurt and angry at everyone right now.
However, I did find out that he ended up at my brother's house (my brother lives in the same city). They often spend weekends together doing outdoor things. My brother knows about the As and D, and I gave him a heads up that my son knows now. My brother said DS mentioned it, and he (brother) took him on a long, rigorous mountain hike all day Saturday to wear him out and get his mind off it. So at least I know he is in a supportive environment and not off doing something destructive while his head is spinning. My brother has planned another excursion next weekend as well, and I will be there the weekend after that. Since DS mentioned it to his uncle, I am hoping he realizes he does have someone in his inner circle that he can talk to right now if he needs to.
It is going to be a long emotionally draining two weeks until I see him, and I need to give him space between now and then to process the upheaval (unless he calls me and wants to talk). I will also be able to find out more about the TBI when I see him as well.
Knowing my child is hurting and knowing there is nothing I can do about it is killing me... BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet