Ace, what I see in your posts is a person in turmoil. You and your BS are in a situation many SI'ers can relate to--something like hell on earth. The early days and weeks are a whirlwind. There are no quick fixes.
Do you want to R? Does she? Have you both gone totally NC with your APs? Is all the hard truth "out" now? TT'ing for weeks or months is, unfortunately, common--and I bet all of us (remorseful, reconciling waywards) wish we hadn't TT'd ever.
If you want to R and she asks you to move out, IMO you should beg to stay, tell her you want to stay and work things out. Offer to move to a spare bedroom or the basement. Ultimately, honor her wishes, but don't make the mistake of giving up too easily, either.