I'd show compassion in regards to the dog because he is an innocent bystander in this crap. If she needs you to read one label to her, so be it. Otherwise, you need to just focus on taking care of yourself and what your next steps are to get out of this.
Sending hugs and strength.
For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
[This message edited by cruelty at 1:59 AM, July 21st (Sunday)]
I can't be totally heartless
Sure you can. She is. And, frankly, refusing to put yourself on the line to be rejected, strung along, etc. is NOT heartless. If you choose to stay out of the dog situation as much as you can, that isn't heartless. It is protecting yourself from someone who knowingly and repeatedly hurts you.
Look, I love dogs. LOVE. It is traumatic when one has be put down or experiences pain. But, having put 3 dogs down in my life - I can say it doesn't compare to the last few years I've had due to my WH's infidelity. Not even close. What she's doing to you, sir, is far more damaging than the potential loss of her dog.
Try to focus on you, focus on the dog, leave her out of it the best you can.
Honestly, she's a big girl. I'm sure her vet is helping her with the medical part of it.
Does the dog live with her or you right now? Sounds like her. If that's the case, ask if you can spend some time alone with the dog. Take him/her to a park. Say your goodbyes.
If the dog lives with you, then just spend quality time with him/her as much as you can.
Oh yeah, you can.
I would show love to the dog and ignore her completely.
No hugs no I'm sorries....let her hurt alone.
What she's doing to you, sir, is far more damaging than the potential loss of her dog.
I agree. What she has done to you is also far more painful than a sick family member. If that happens, you should deal directly with the family member (assuming this is someone you are close to) and ignore WW.
She fired you from the job of supporting and caring for her. She secretly replaced you. It is great that you're doing a 180. Stick with it in all situations to protect yourself and heal yourself.
That said, if you want to spend time with the dog, that's a reasonable request.
Just do it alone.