I don't even bother calling out FT on stupid passive-aggessive shit like this anymore. Because it will get me no where fast and will aggravate me even more. I just make a mental note of it and use it as information to make decisions in the future.
And what NIK said. None of this "if I remember correctly" stuff.
"I will pick him up at 8.30pm from your place unless I hear otherwise by XTIME. As per the decree we are each to provide X hours notice for extended visitations as per the decree. [or if it is not in the decree then "I will need X hours notice for extended visitations going forward"]. The decree also answers your question regarding extra weeks. The Google calendar answers all of your other questions".
I would also add a "Please stop contacting me unnecessarily." I say it about every second time he contacts me with some idiotic query that he could have worked out himself. The other time he gets crickets.
There must be something in the water. The sad clown has been trying to goad me something chronic lately. Over bullshit.
Couldn't find my big ones glasses in her school bag. I get a where is it? Its not yours return it to me!!
I say its in the front pocket of her bag.
He says something like "You think I didn't look in there you fool - give it back to me, its not yours!".
I say "It is in the front pocket where her pawpaw cream is kept. Look again."
He comes back "Thank you".
I had a chuckle and thought yeah - I'll thank you when you DIAF.
Then my little one was sick and couldn't go to DC so we had to do a handover in person. 8am, my foyer. IN FRONT of my big girl he says "Didn't you take her to school?".
Me: "No - we have never separated them, this has always been our arrangement."
She doesn't start school until 9 - we've always handed both girls over at 8am.
<I wanted to rip his face off for saying this shit right in front of my sweet little girl>
In a little mantrum huff: "It would have been nice for you to tell me".
Me: "this has always been our arrangement".
Now yes, I was upset that he said this shit in front of my big girl but I honestly did not give a flying fuck about what he was trying to pull. I've come to expect it.
Like my own private game of Fuckwit Bingo.
I call Bingo and FTG.
Ranting is good Tesla and I swear to god that man's purpose in life is to provide comedic cobber for us all here to enjoy. Get it out if you feel it. Vent away.
But... I don't want you to feel like this every single time he pulls this shit. Not even for a fucking second. He doesn't deserve your sharp wit and brilliant mind even when it is at his expense and aimed at his shit-for-brains.
I want you to see and feel the funnies but not the mads.
I want to be there too.
((Tesla)) I don't feel at all safe when they are with him. He put my tantruming 5 year old out on his balcony 3-4 flights up. I heard her yelling for him from my place. This on top of his drinking and 'recreational' drug use and his recreational drug user child of a GF.
I hear you. I really do. That is why you are LIVID. If he was keeping him safe and if you felt secure you would only see the funny side. I don't know what advice to give you about that as I'm right there in that hell with you.