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User Topic: Need some validation and a couple of FtGs
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice Rant! Personally I am very impressed that you are currently sane.

F.T.G!

I agree with Take2.

Did he ever communicate or what??


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5611 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, just heard from him. Pick up has been confirmed. I can put away my crazy. Seriously, him being passive aggressive about this jet makes me want to lose my shit. It's the only way he has left to fuck with me. But here's the thing...I don't think he's doing it on purpose. I think he is just that fucked up.

And now I give myself permission to breathe again.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad it worked out, you handled the idiot really well....and just for the hell of it - F.T.G!!!


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4376 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FTG! Just wanted to get that in as I'm sure he needs a couple more. FTG!!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, get this...
I get to ex-shat's place and he's GOING TO WORK!!!!

WTF

On the way home, I ask Teslet if he had fun at grandma's party. He says, he didn't see grandma.
I don't know what his selfish aim was in this. I really don't care. But once again he has proven that he is a selfish mother-fucker.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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missmydogs
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm late but still FTG!!!


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, I know it isn't what is preached here, but I'd lose my crazy on that one! I would call him and tell him don't you EVER lie to me about wanting to take him somewhere and then not going and don't EVER try to get an extra night for him to sleep over when you aren't even going to be home. FTG!


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Late to the game, but what the heck:

FTG!

*handing him a one-way ticket to Bangladesh*


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I wish you could just tear a strip off him for that.
Really
Here's one more. FTG.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy shit, and as I was getting him ready for bed, he pulls his shorts off and he has no undies on. I say to him, "Couldn't find any undies?" He says that he was going to play on the slip and slide but he couldn't find his swimming trunks. Okay, no biggie.

I say, "Oh cool, a slip and slide! I bet you and dad had fun on that."
He says that dad wasn't outside with him but the neighborkid was. Sounds like stripper whore wasn't outside either. There is no fenced in area around these apartments. There are train tracks within 1000 ft...and a parking lot just outside the front door.

Now, maybe somebody was watching from the window. But tell me why it is that this fucker only sees his son every other weekend and can't muster up the gumption to go outside and watch his kid...and then the fucker is going to try to get an extra night??!!

No. No. No. Unless that fucker goes by the book there is no more extra time. Not even a minute. FTG.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fuck that mother fucking guy.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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peridot
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would send him an email or a text telling him that when teslet is outside an adult also needs to be outside.

I would also tell him that you know they didn't go see grandma. Since he has the need to tell lies instead of the truth, there will not be any more extra time or changes in the visitation schedule.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an asshole! Seriously FTG.

I don't even bother calling out FT on stupid passive-aggessive shit like this anymore. Because it will get me no where fast and will aggravate me even more. I just make a mental note of it and use it as information to make decisions in the future.

However, I hope to god someone was keeping an eye on those kids. Why even bother taking visitation if you're just going to ignore your kid!?


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't even bother calling out FT on stupid passive-aggessive shit like this anymore. Because it will get me no where fast and will aggravate me even more. I just make a mental note of it and use it as information to make decisions in the future.

^^THIS.

And what NIK said. None of this "if I remember correctly" stuff.

"I will pick him up at 8.30pm from your place unless I hear otherwise by XTIME. As per the decree we are each to provide X hours notice for extended visitations as per the decree. [or if it is not in the decree then "I will need X hours notice for extended visitations going forward"]. The decree also answers your question regarding extra weeks. The Google calendar answers all of your other questions".

I would also add a "Please stop contacting me unnecessarily." I say it about every second time he contacts me with some idiotic query that he could have worked out himself. The other time he gets crickets.

Fuuuuuuuck.Thaaaaaaat.Motherfuuuuuucking.Guuuuuuuy.

There must be something in the water. The sad clown has been trying to goad me something chronic lately. Over bullshit.

Couldn't find my big ones glasses in her school bag. I get a where is it? Its not yours return it to me!!

I say its in the front pocket of her bag.

He says something like "You think I didn't look in there you fool - give it back to me, its not yours!".

I say "It is in the front pocket where her pawpaw cream is kept. Look again."

He comes back "Thank you".

I had a chuckle and thought yeah - I'll thank you when you DIAF.

Then my little one was sick and couldn't go to DC so we had to do a handover in person. 8am, my foyer. IN FRONT of my big girl he says "Didn't you take her to school?".

Me: "No - we have never separated them, this has always been our arrangement."

She doesn't start school until 9 - we've always handed both girls over at 8am.

<I wanted to rip his face off for saying this shit right in front of my sweet little girl>

In a little mantrum huff: "It would have been nice for you to tell me".

Me: "this has always been our arrangement".

Now yes, I was upset that he said this shit in front of my big girl but I honestly did not give a flying fuck about what he was trying to pull. I've come to expect it.

Like my own private game of Fuckwit Bingo.

I call Bingo and FTG.

Ranting is good Tesla and I swear to god that man's purpose in life is to provide comedic cobber for us all here to enjoy. Get it out if you feel it. Vent away.

But... I don't want you to feel like this every single time he pulls this shit. Not even for a fucking second. He doesn't deserve your sharp wit and brilliant mind even when it is at his expense and aimed at his shit-for-brains.

I want you to see and feel the funnies but not the mads.

I want to be there too.

((Tesla)) I don't feel at all safe when they are with him. He put my tantruming 5 year old out on his balcony 3-4 flights up. I heard her yelling for him from my place. This on top of his drinking and 'recreational' drug use and his recreational drug user child of a GF.

Fuck me.

I hear you. I really do. That is why you are LIVID. If he was keeping him safe and if you felt secure you would only see the funny side. I don't know what advice to give you about that as I'm right there in that hell with you.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 9:23 AM, July 22nd (Monday)]


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Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Tesla)) I don't feel at all safe when they are with him. He put my tantruming 5 year old out on his balcony 3-4 flights up. I heard her yelling for him from my place. This on top of his drinking and 'recreational' drug use and his recreational drug user child of a GF.

I hear you. Mine let my 6 year old jump on a trampoline without a net at night without any lights on. He could have broken his neck.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 2:55 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Next time he asks a question about the schedule send him a link to the Google calendar. Nothing else. He will learn to read soon.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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LAFA
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely worth a FTG.


When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.

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