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User Topic: Small Epiphany
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a little ah ha moment yesterday. I am self employed. I can work/not work when I want. Weekends can be a busy time for me if I chose them to be. Since the A and the immediate removal of STBXH from house, I have tried to stay around home more on weekends for my son (DS16). Not that he "needs" me, but I have not wanted to work and be away for a lot just because.

Anyhoo, I do feel as though he is getting some processing done and I feel better about being out working a few hours during the weekend. This Sunday I had no work, but was really antzy. You know I want to do something, but what, these 4 walls making me crazy etc. I used to feel this way when STBXH was with us. I would work hours during the week, he would too. Weekend came and I would want to do something. Him not so much. So if he didn't do something I would just work more (great for my bank account).

It hit me yesterday. I was bored and I wanted to go do something. AND I COULD! At 4pm I loaded up my kayak and headed to the lake. Home 3 hours later. I would never have done that if STBXH was still living with us.

A little yea me!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 763 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WONDERFUL!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9715 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
dmari
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Isn't these "small" epiphany's wonderful?!?! Thank you for sharing as it allowed me to reflect on how different but better life is without stbx.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2234 | Registered: Oct 2012
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