Tell her that her cheating on you was the ultimate insult. Her having sex with OM was the most insulting and disrespectful thing she could have done to you and the marriage.
Tell her she gets tested..full panel..with the results from the doctor sent to you..or no R.
Even if she claims they used a condom..she must get tested..you too. First,they aren't 100%,second WS's lie,and third, if there was oral then she had unprotected sexual contact.
So she cheats..and tells you to leave the house because you insulted her by asking her to get tested?? You need to put your foot down now,before this WW runs all over you. If she isn't doing everything she should be doing to R with you,then you need to 180 and reconsider staying with a woman who thinks so little of you.
ETA: Have you told the OM's BW yet? Considering the things Ive read in your past posts,I think you need to do this right way. Don't tell your WW or she might warn the OM..and that won't go over well. Tell her. She deserves to know. Your WW doesn't sound too remorseful...it's possible the A has restarted or gone underground. Telling his BW will help blow the fantasy of the affair out of the water. Also..his BW needs to know HER health has been compromised. She needs to be tested.BS(me)41
M: June 2001
Status: Currently in R..very happy with this *new* husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.